Making the Adjustment – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 62

Getting Back into the Routine

First off, I just realized I am about 2/3 done with this blog challenge.  How did that happen?  That’s pretty exciting and the finish line is starting to emerge.

So, today was the first day back to our old routine of being a part-time single mom.  I think, no I KNOW we got spoiled and was so glad and used to having hubby/dad home.  It’s going to be yet another adjustment for all of us, but, we’re doing what we have to do to move forward.

Today was a bit of a challenge for all of us.  From getting them to pick up their toys to making their beds, to turning off the Wii, it was as if they turned off their “listen to Mom” switch or something.  We made an attempt to have an outing, and it was a case of Murphy’s Law.  Looking back on the whole experience, and after venting to my hubby, a lot of it could have been avoided and handled differently.  Hearing him say, “You kinda created your own mess” was a hard pill to swallow, and very true.  As much as the boys would like to have the dog on an outing to the Boardwalk, it just might not happen.  So, tomorrow, if the weather is nice again, we will wake up early and go for that bike/walk.  And that’s a BIG if!!!

The boys are asleep now, and it’s funny how things seem to come together AFTER they sleep.  I was about to share some pet peeves I have on raising boys, but that gave me an idea and I’m saving it for another blog post.  Today’s reflection for me is to take it one day at a time and each day will get better.  We’ve done this before and came out fine on the other end.  We will be fine once again this go around.

Keep moving forward!!!

On My Own…Again and Moving Forward – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 61

Holding Down the Fort

This afternoon, I drove hubby to the airport to head back to Alberta.  It’s something that never gets easy or what we get used to.  It was great having him home, even though I was gone for part of his stay.  Thankfully, it wasn’t an emotional send-off.  The boys were home and they said their goodbye’s there.  For me, it’s not that I don’t get emotional, but I just don’t show it.  This is our life, and for now, this is what we have to do to move forward.  We don’t like it, but, we are making it work because we HAVE to.

This go around, my resolve is different.  The promise is clear, and I know what needs to be done.  It’s hard taking care of the boys on my own, while maintaining a household, spedning quality time with the boys, running a business, and not lose my mind in the process.  I’m actually looking forward to the next few months and seeing how much I will grow as an individual.  As I stated, the promise is clear to me, now more than ever.  This is temporary; a sacrifice that we must endure in order to reach and exceed my goals.

I am welcoming the challenge; embracing the change ahead and will continue to move forward with that no matter what mindset.  No matter what is thrown my way, I will overcome it.  No matter who isn’t supportive, I will perservere.  No matter what happens, I will not stop.  I will keep going.  Why?  Because the promise is clear that when the dust clears, my family and I will be one unit and we will be in a position where we will be stable.  It’s going to be a tough road ahead, and I am ready.

I hope you’re ready for me!!!  Otherwise, step aside!!!

Work Works – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 60

Work Works

This is a saying that one of my mentors says repeatedly when he does trainings.  Sometimes, it takes a while for things to click for me, and when it does, look out.  There is truth when one says, “Success leaves clues.”  Learn from and mimick what successful people do and you will yield the same results.  When you are willing to be molded, you are open, you are coachable and you are willing to do the work, it’s amazing how the universe aligns so you can get what you seek.

It doesn’t matter what you want in life, be it a successful business, a rock-hard body whatever it may be.  At the end of the day, it comes down to you doing the WORK.  There is no avoiding this important piece.  You can’t expect one without doing the other.  You are NOT exempt.  You are not special in the sense that you get to bypass all of the little steps, dirty work and trench-digging that others have gone through.  You’ve got to follow the rules just like everyone else.

When you find someone who is on the same page as you, it makes all the difference.  That individual gets it; are willing to do the work; understands that it’s not about the instant gratification.  When you find someone who recognizes they are part of a marathon, not a 100-meter dash; they are in it for the LONG HAUL, it makes all the other disappointments worth it.  As long as you keep your goals and why in the forefront, and realize that as long as you keep going, you will win.

Do the work, keep focused, don’t quit and embrace the work.  Work truly does work.

Remembering a Phenomenal Woman – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 59

I Rise – A Phenomenal Woman

I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

Heaven called one of their angels home today.  Dr. Maya Angelou, author, poet, motivational speaker passed today.  She was 86 years young.  It’s funny (in a weird, cosmic way) because the other day, I read an article about Dr. Angelou and her condition and I couldn’t help but wonder when her time would come.  Call it a premonition, but I felt it coming – I just didn’t know when.

Maya Angelou is one of those public figures who is known around the world for her influence on others.  I had the honor of hearing her speak as an undergrad at St. John’s University.  Alumni Hall was packed and as she spoke, you could feel the wisdom and her words go right through you.  She commanded attention and you wanted to hear her words.  I am saddened by her loss, but uplifted in knowing her legacy lives on through her work.

One of my favorite poems is Phenomenal Woman.  Here’s the poem in its entirety:

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.

I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size   
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms,
The span of my hips,   
The stride of my step,   
The curl of my lips.   
I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,   
That’s me.

I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,   
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.   
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.   
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,   
And the flash of my teeth,   
The swing in my waist,   
And the joy in my feet.   
I’m a woman

Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Men themselves have wondered   
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them,   
They say they still can’t see.   
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,   
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.   
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.   
When you see me passing,
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,   
The bend of my hair,   
the palm of my hand,   
The need for my care.   
’Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.”

Maya Angelou, “Phenomenal Woman” from And Still I Rise. Copyright © 1978 by Maya Angelou.

This is my anthem, my mantra, my go to poem on those days when I don’t feel worthy. That’s the power of Maya Angelou.  Thank you, Maya Angelou, for giving us your wisdom and the ability to share your wisdom for generations to come.

Nothing to Share – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 58

Nothing to Share?

Well, I wouldn’t say that’s entirely true, but what I want to share is not complete and I refuse to put something out that isn’t ready, even if it’s my thoughts.  Call me crazy, that’s how I roll.  It was a very productive day and I’m real excited about the coming weeks ahead.  Moving forward, making changes, helping others along the way and staying the course.

And now, I must get some sleep.  

A Difficult Time in Your Life – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 57

A Difficult Time

I’ve been sitting here for what feels like an enternity (but is probably about 20 minutes,) figuring out how to start this blog post.  It’s fairly simple – I know the difficult time in my life, but it’s a matter of how to talk about it.  It’s ben just over a yer since my Dad passed, and it’s still a bit surreal.

We didn’t have your typical father-daughter relationship.  In fact, it really wasn’t.  There are some things that I learned from him and that have carried over into my life as a parent, but I never felt like “Daddy’s Little Girl.”  What can you do, right?  It’s who he was, and regardless of certain things in the past, he is half the reason I am alive today.

Two years ago this month, my Dad suffered what we came to realize was a stroke, while on the way to work.  He was smart enough to pull over when he realized he couldn’t swallow.  He was admitted to the local hospital and things went downhill.  He ended up in ICU and was there for about 6-8 weeks.  When he went home, it was my Mom and brother who took care of him.  Fast forward to almost a year later – he seemed to be progressing, but on May 16, I believe he was at peace and wanted to move on.  This is what I keep telling myself, just because knowing who he was and the type of person he was, not being able to work and provide for his family had to have been a major blow.

Growing up, we think our parents are invincible and will live forever.  When both my grandmothers died, it was the beginning of me experiencing death, and I really didn’t like it; I don’t like it now.  I understand death is a part of living, but I tend to be a little selfish in this area.  I think I ‘m rambling right now.  Some days are better than others; sometimes I just have no idea what or how to feel.  I’ve been able to turn to some friends who have been through similar situations of losing a parent, and it’s hard to explain to those who haven’t gone through it.  

As a parent, it is my hope that as my kids get older…I hope and pray that my kids will know how much I love them and everything I do is to provide the best life for them.  I’m really rambling now, and I’m not even sure I’m still discussing the topic.

Some days are better than others…

Memorial Day Weekend – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 56

Happy Memorial Day

It’s Memorial Day weekend in the States.  The unofficial start to Summer, so to speak.  I saw this picture going viral on Facebook, and I couldn’t help but share.  So many are preparing for gatherings and BBQs across the States, and hopefully everyone realizes the real meaning behind this weekend.
I have so many friends who are currently serving, have served, made the ultimate sacrifice, and military spouses.  I can’t thank them enough for all they have done and continue to do.  One friend of mine made a comment to me that has always stayed with me.  She said that it shouldn’t come down to one day or event when we stop and recognize our soldiers.  This is something we should be doing every day.  It doesn’t have to be anything major, something as simple as a “thank you” or visiting with a  friend or picking up the phone and talking with someone.  Sometimes that’s all it takes to show appreciation.

So, enjoy the BBQs, the cold beers and time with friends.  But also remember why this weekend is taking place.  I’m off my soapbox for now, you may commence with your day.  Take care, and thanks for reading.