Let’s Talk About FEAR – 100 Day Blog Challenge Day 9

What is Fear?


Fear.  Four little letters that have such a BIG impact on our lives.  What is fear?  False Evidence Appearing Real (or False Expectations Appearing Real.)  It’s what we perceive in our minds and what we sometimes let consume us.

I’m guilty of being afraid of lots of things.  I’m not gonna lie, but there are times when the fear takes over.  When I look back on all the things I was “afraid” of, it turned out to me making mountains out of mull hills.  

What are some of my fears?  

Opening up to people – letting my guard down.  Too often than not, I look for the good in others because it is my belief that we are all good in some way.  Sometimes that has come back to bite me and I become more of an introvert and not want to let people in.

Change – change is a good thing because we tend to get very comfortable where we are. Be willing to step out of your comfort zone because that’s where all your dreams and achievements are found.  Embrace change.  Change is good and necessary.

Failure – this one has so many levels, it’s not even funny.  Failure as a parent, wife, business woman, friend, in life.  Failing to live my life to its fullest potential.  Why do we do this to ourselves?  Or at least why do I do this to myself?

Rejection – rather hearing “no.”  When someone tells us no, we tend to take it personally.  But, what we have to realize is the no is not to you, but to the situation.  Or, it could mean “not now.”  Learn to get past the no, embrace it and move on.

Success – when things are going bad, we know what to expect.  We’re more acceptable of the downfalls, because we can pick apart what could be improved.  But when things are going GREAT, you tend to wonder when the ball is going to drop or when will the rug get pulled from under you.  Success can come in many forms, and no matter how big or small, those accomplishments pave the way for better things to come.

What’s the cure for FEAR?

Do it anyway!!!  I’ve heard this over and over in many forms.  Do it afraid.  You’ve got an adrenaline rush, your palms are sweaty, your heart’s racing and that’s the BEST time to take action.  Inactivity breeds fear; activity breeds results.  When I first started this blog challenge, I was afraid of what the reaction of others would be.  Will anyone read them?  Will it make sense?  Will others get it?  WHO CARES?!?!?!  Just do it!!!  Let the chips fall where they may and things will happen.  Trust the process.

What are your fears?  What have you been putting off because you were afraid of the results?  Take action.  Do it anyway.  It’ll be hard in the beginning, but once you get over that hump, everything else is smooth sailing.

Conquer your fears – take action and put those fears to rest.



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100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 4 – Keep On Truckin’…

And the Saga Continues…


It’s Day 3 of no power, and I feel like that’s all to discuss.  It’s kind of funny because when I decided to start this challenge, I really had some good topics that I wanted to share, but this darn winter and no power has taken over. 

GAH!!!

Oh well, I will go with the flow.

The last I heard, it was down to 1,800 customers still without power, but this experience has taught me some things:

1.  Make sure you have LOTS of batteries on hand
2.  Make sure you have matches/lighters on hand
3.  A better appreciation for what God provides
4.  Bonding time with the kiddos
5.  You become a MASTER of operating the generator

I must admit, when I first had to handle the generator, I was nervous and scared and a little of the “girl” on me started to creep out.  The challenge was using the crank because it’s so powerful, but now, it’s almost a walk in the park.  It still likes to put on a fight, but I ultimately prevail!!!



UPDATE – Two minutes after I posted my blog, the power came back on.  {Insert happy dance here!!!}

The kids went back to school today…the kids went back to school today!!!  I only had ONE at home with me!!!  That may sound a little harsh, but after having them home for March Break two weeks ago and then home since last Wednesday because of storms, that’s a little too much child for me to handle on my own.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my kids, they are my life, but they can be TOO MUCH sometimes, and having that little break keeps me sane.  I’m pretty sure my fellow Moms can relate to what I’m saying.  And there’s nothing wrong with needing and wanting some alone time.  It’s necessary and something that I need to work on more and plan to incorporate better in my daily routine.

Just Decide

I listened to a great training call from an amazing leader in our company who is also a Mom and hearing her story again really helped me put things into perspective.  All too often, we (at least I) tend to complicate things instead of just keeping it simple.  Everything always comes down to making a decision.  Once you do, things will fall into place.  It’s the Law of Attraction at its best and when I simply decide what I want, it’s amazing how the right doors open and the right people come into my life.  

So, I’ve made the decision…I’m moving forward and those who wish to follow on this amazing journey, great.  For those who choose not to, step aside.  There are plenty of people out there who are looking to make a change in their life.  Tired of the same hum-drum routine, and willing to do what it takes to go after what they want and have the life they deserve.

So, how about you?  What’s your decision?

Let me know your thoughts on what you’ve been reading.  Comment below, share your feedback.  I welcome all comments and will respond to you.  I appreciate you taking the time to learn more about me and read my thoughts.

Thanks for reading, and I will see you tomorrow for Day 5.

100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 3 – Another Day, Another Storm

Turning Lemons into Lemonade

I gotta say, waking up on April 1st to a SNOWSTORM and Day #2 without power was not exactly what I was hoping for.  I mean, talk about a mean April Fool’s joke. Needless to say, my morning didn’t start off right, but looking back on the day, it’s not that it didn’t start out right, I CHOSE to not make it start off right.

Isaac

So, this has been Day 5 of no school for the boys, we’re all going stir crazy and it just felt like everything was being dumped on me all at once.  My goodness, I mean, REALLY? REALLY?!?!!?  It just seemed to be one of those days.

And then, I decided to take out my camera.

Elijah

You know, I always find solace when I have my camera in my hand.  It just seems as if all the problems melt away.  To conserve the use of my generator, I’ve been turning it off throughout the day (and to also save on gas since I only have a limited supply.)  Well, I turned the generator off around 5pm, and as soon as I did that, the sun came out.  It was the first time in a long time that I’ve seen the sun.  I just had to get my camera.

So, I started shooting.  What did I start shooting?  Some scenes of the outdoors, and then I turned the camera on my muse – my boys.

Brotherly Love
Justus

It’s always a fun time capturing my boys on film, whether it’s still life or video.  They’re very willing subjects, but then again, what kid ISN’T willing when it comes to a camera.  They let me shoot them in the evening light as the sun was going down and it was just a lot of fun.  I’m not sure how many pics I took, but I just kept shooting.  I got some pretty amazing shots of the boys and it made me realize that there are so many things we can control in life.  The weather is NOT one of them.  So, instead of bitching and complaining about it, just make the most of it.  Yes, the power’s out, and that’s no fun.  It’s still snowing and it’s April, the boys have been out of school for a week and my schedule has been turned upside down.  But, these are things completely out of MY control, so just go with the flow.

And that’s exactly what I did.

Instead, I chose to focus on what I could control and that is MY attitude and reaction to things.  Sometimes it takes me a while to realize these things, but when I do, it usually sticks.

Yeah, it’s all worth it!!!

Not sure what tomorrow will bring, but according to the weather, things should be looking up for our neck of the woods, and I hope it’s true.  If it turns out to be another snow day for the boys, we’ll make it work.  That’s all we can do.  Hopefully the power will be back on, but if not, we’ll make do.  We’ve been doing pretty well so far.

But, that doesn’t mean I can’t have visions of warm weather and a bit of tranquility every now and again either, right?  No, I didn’t think so.

Embracing Change

Change…it’s such a hard thing to grasp sometimes.  I mean, why do things have to change?  Can’t things just remain the same?  I don’t always think this way, but this has come into play fairly recently on many different levels.

This week, my hubby left for work in Alberta, Canada, which is about 3,000 miles and 3 time zones away.  We knew this was coming, and waiting for the call for a new job, but the reality setting in was a different story.  At first, I was just numb.  I didn’t know WHAT to feel.  It’s  not like this was something new.  This has been my life for the past 7 years.  What made it different was he’d been home for the past 14 months or so.  While our finances took a hit, something else happened…we were a family.  The boys got to know their Dad and he got to know them.  We were a unit and it almost felt normal.  So, when we had to watch him get on a plane Monday morning, it was a little surreal.  Hearing and watching Elijah, our oldest, break down begging for his Dad to stay home was a whole new level of “whoa.”

It’s amazing how one person or one event can have such an impact on your life.  We know it’s for the greater good, and at least he’ll be home every two weeks, but transitioning back to single mother duties is going to be a challenge.  It already has been a challenge.  The emotions, the adjustments, EVERYTHING has shifted.  We’ve all had to make some changes and it’s been a little rough.  Day 3 of Operation Single Mom has commenced, and so far, 80, no 70, no 60% of the kinks have been worked out.  This is going to be a process.

Change has happened in other areas of my life as well.  I’ve embarked on a fitness lifestyle since 2010, and it’s been going great.  So far, my favorite instructor is Chalene Johnson.  I’ve done 3 rounds of TurboFire, and finished ChaLEAN Extreme in December.  This month, I started RevAbs, and as I posted in one of my fitness groups, I was not feeling it.  Here’s what I posted:
“Hey Fitness Pals, so I’ve been doing the RevAbs program now for 17 days, and wasn’t really feeling it (hence the addition of TF here and there.) Then it dawned on me. The reason why I haven’t been getting into it is because I haven’t ALLOWED myself to accept the new workout. I’ve been so used to Chalene Johnson’s technique that I kind of compared the two. I wasn’t open to the change. We all know how we tend to react to change, right? So, this morning when I popped the Power Intervals DVD in for class today, I made a mental note to myself to let go and embrace the workout. Wow, what a difference it made. By changing my mindset just a tiny bit, allowed me to not only have a great workout (I finally did a couple of the full-on Squat Thrusts) but I actually had FUN!!! So, there’s my thought for the day. Embrace change, because it’s what will get you to where you want to go. Take care, and be well, my friends.”

This post is actually what inspired me to write this blog.  Change is hard; change is tough; change forces us to, well, CHANGE!!!  And sometimes we just don’t want to.  But when we are willing to let go, embrace change, and allow what happens to happen, we may be pleasantly surprised at what we find on the other side.

We’re 23 days into 2013, and I vowed this would be a year of change.  I am currently redoing Chalene Johnson’s 30 Day Challenge, which has totally given me a new found energy and drive to tackle my goals.  I have noticed my confidence level coming back; I have more posture and I am handling my tasks with a go-get ’em attitude.  It’s still a process, and by no means am I where I want to be.  But this challenge has given me to push I need to get back on the saddle, re-evaluate my priorities and do the things that will give me the results I seek.

As far as my business goes, I have my goals in place, and doing the right activities that will lead me to my goals.  Many will disagree, many will argue.  Those who catch the vision and see what I see will partner with me and I will help them reach their goals. 

So, while change may be scary, uncomfortable and downright awful to swallow, EMBRACE it!!!  This is a new year to make your dreams come true.  So, decide what you want, seek the information to get you there and put a plan in place to make it happen.

Take care, be well, and until we meet again, never stop dreaming!!!  Here’s to achieving our goals.