How Have You Changed in the Last 5 Years? – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 98

Change and Growth

Wow, it’s coming so close.  I can’t believe this challenge is almost done.

For this topic, I needed a little help because I wasn’t really sure if I have changed over the past 5 years.  Many times, at least for me, I am not able to look outside myself and see how I’ve grown.  I also tend to be quite critical of myself.  So, this morning, I asked my husband this question and the one thing that he shared with me in how I’ve changed over the past 5 years is how I handle myself in adverse conditions.  He then went on to say that he’s noticed I don’t get overly stressed over certain situations as much as I used to because I am able to look at the big picture and realize there are some things which I cannot control.

That was a loaded comment for me and it also spoke volumes.  Then I started thinking about how I have changed over the last 5 years and that’s when things started coming together.  First and foremost, as a Mom, I have mellowed out quite a bit.  When the boys were younger, my stress level was through the roof.  I fussed over every move they made, what they did, where they were going.  I was almost afraid to let them make mistakes.  Today, I’m not as high maintenance with the boys.  They’re older and coming into their own identities and are handling situations as they come along.  I still worry and stress over them, but it’s not as overbearing as it was 5 years ago.  They’re growing every day and are turning into fine young men.  It’s something every Mom wants for her children and I’m doing it every day with mine.

As a Wife, I have learned to be more calm and open with my husband.  This is an area that was a bit of a struggle because he’s gone a lot for work and most of the time I’m left to hold down the fort.  When he would come home, we all would have to adjust and while I established a routine with the boys, my issue was always making that adjustment when he got home.  A lot of times, in my mind, I had things all worked out and then he’d come home and we’d have to re-learn a whole new routine.  Sometimes I felt a little resentment and it wasn’t necessary.  It’s the nature of our relationship.  Today, I’ve mellowed out A LOT in this area.  I still tend to get a little OCD with the routines, but I am not so high strung about it.  

In terms of our relationship as husband and wife, that has gotten better and still a work in progress.  Marriage is constant work.  It’s about building and developing those relationships, adjusting to each other’s needs and communicating.  It’s a lot of work and it takes both parties to be on board WITHOUT outside influences.

I’m starting to notice a pattern of high maintenance in my life.  Thank goodness I’ve mellowed out over the years.

As a business person, the biggest change I have realized goes back to what hubby said about how I handle adverse conditions.  When I first started out, I was all over the place – running around like a chicken with her head chopped off.  I was chasing this and that, no real focus, no real drive, no vision, no expectations.  A lot of times, I treated my business like spaghetti – throwing it against the wall to see what would stick.  That lead to lots of frustration, doubt, stress and a sense of not knowing.

Another area that has changed is how I deal with difficult/challenging people.  In the past, I would let people walk all over me or let THEIR thougths determine who I was as a person.  It wasn’t necessarily me trying to be liked by everyone or even be a “Yes” person.  I wouldn’t speak up and voice my concerns or my ideas because of a lack of self-confidence.  Today, I learn from those difficult/challenging people or situations and realize that at the end of the day someone else’s opinion is not my concern and that tomorrow, I will wake up, be fine and do it all over again.

Today, I am a better person.  I am a better mother than I was 5 years ago.  I’ve learned though my boys that I am very strong and as we all go through each of their growing stages, I can handle it.  As a wife, I am more open to our relationship and realize it’s not about always having things done my way or always being right (even when I usually am.)  As a business woman, I know my purpose.  I’m here to help change people’s lives.  I also realize that not everyone will be as receptive to what I have to offer and that’s okay.  There are plenty of people out there who need help and looking for me.  I will continue to search for them and make my presence known.

I know that what ever is thrown my way, I will be able to handle it.  These past 5 years are just the beginning and the stepping stone for greatness ahead. 

 I’m excited and can’t wait!!!

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On My Own…Again and Moving Forward – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 61

Holding Down the Fort

This afternoon, I drove hubby to the airport to head back to Alberta.  It’s something that never gets easy or what we get used to.  It was great having him home, even though I was gone for part of his stay.  Thankfully, it wasn’t an emotional send-off.  The boys were home and they said their goodbye’s there.  For me, it’s not that I don’t get emotional, but I just don’t show it.  This is our life, and for now, this is what we have to do to move forward.  We don’t like it, but, we are making it work because we HAVE to.

This go around, my resolve is different.  The promise is clear, and I know what needs to be done.  It’s hard taking care of the boys on my own, while maintaining a household, spedning quality time with the boys, running a business, and not lose my mind in the process.  I’m actually looking forward to the next few months and seeing how much I will grow as an individual.  As I stated, the promise is clear to me, now more than ever.  This is temporary; a sacrifice that we must endure in order to reach and exceed my goals.

I am welcoming the challenge; embracing the change ahead and will continue to move forward with that no matter what mindset.  No matter what is thrown my way, I will overcome it.  No matter who isn’t supportive, I will perservere.  No matter what happens, I will not stop.  I will keep going.  Why?  Because the promise is clear that when the dust clears, my family and I will be one unit and we will be in a position where we will be stable.  It’s going to be a tough road ahead, and I am ready.

I hope you’re ready for me!!!  Otherwise, step aside!!!

Making Connections, Revisiting My Why and Moving Forward – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 30

A Work in Progress

Wow, I’ve hit the 30-day mark with my blogging, and it’s been quite the adventure, so far.  To be honest, I don’t really have a system in place, I would just write what I felt or what was going on for me that day.  I actually found a couple blog challenges that I plan to implement for the next 30 days and it will be exciting to see how that pans out.

But, for now, going back to my title, I’ll discuss a little about what happened today.

This morning, I had the chance to meet with one of the women I met a couple weeks ago at the Women in Business mixer I attended in my area.  That was a great experience, and to sit down with her today was a real eye-opening experience.  The original focus of the meeting was to share with her a little about what I do in hopes that she may offer some referrals and/or guidance to steer me in the right direction.  

I got so much more from that.

In terms of eye-opening, I finally saw what I knew was to be true in the back of my mind…I have NOT been taking my business as seriously as I should.  Sure, I would be  “busy” during the day, but, really looking at my days, I may have been busy, but a lot of that “busy work” was more of a distraction to what I should be doing during the day.  Yes, I still have one more little one at home, and he does take up a lot of my time, but, after leaving that meeting, I took an honest look at myself and realized I am doing more harm than good to my family, my kids, my business, my team and more important, myself.

Sometimes it’s hard to go down that road or even hear it from someone else.  We quickly go on the defensive side and try to justify our actions.  But, what I got from this meeting was a genuine straight talk from someone who is looking out for my best interest, offering some key suggestions to move me forward.  Why get defensive about getting better?  Isn’t that what we all want anyway?

I was given some referrals as to who to contact for better exposure as well as suggestions to brand myself better online, which has been a struggle for me.  I’ll be taking baby steps, but I already know that this requires a change in my THINKING!!!  

The other realization that came to light was what happened after I asked, “How am I REALLY portraying myself?”  Am I REALLY portraying myself as a business woman or a Mom who’s busy trying to build a business?  I could do better, I could improve a lot of things, and while it’s not easy to admit, it’s also quite doable.  So, I’ve realized that I need to get better, brand myself better and be willing to continue the learning and growing process with blind faith.  Keeping my why in my sights is key.  I must NEVER lose that focus, no matter how difficult it gets, who shuts me down or whatever obstacles come my way.  This is too important for my family and me to not take it seriously.

The time is NOW!!!  

It’s a great feeling when you realize what isn’t working and that it can be fixed.  It’s simply a matter of admitting, recognizing, correcting and moving forward.  There’s nothing wrong with making mistakes.  There’s nothing wrong with stumbling and failing.  The time when it becomes an issue is when you aren’t willing to recognize you’re on the road to nowhere, being stubborn, proud and/or pigheaded and continue down that road.  Just get off that bad road, make a couple turns, refuel, recharge, look at the road map (i.e. your goals) once again and get on the right path.

So many others have been there.  It’s nothing new to any of us.  But, I am thankful for that conversation this morning.  It was a true eye-opening, A-HA moment for me that made me realize what needs to happen and that all is not lost.

Take care, and thanks to all who have been reading and following me throughout this challenge.  It’s been fun so far, and a great lesson for me.  Enjoy.

Taking That First Step – 100 Day Blog Challenge Day 16

You’ve Got to Learn to Crawl, Before You Learn to Walk


Today, I was actually at a loss of what to share.  But, earlier this evening, I saw a video posted of a young boy taking his first steps from his Dad to his Mom, while the Granddad
watched and recorded the whole event.  It lasted for about 40 seconds, but it spoke volumes.  The looks on the Mom’s face as her boy made those steps toward her; stumbling a couple times, then getting back up and finally with outstretched arms, reaches his Mom in what could only be described as the winning shot, was a sight to behold.

And that one video got me to thinking…

Why do we want to rush the process of success, or better worded, BYPASS all the necessary steps to success, thinking we have a better understanding of how to get there than those who have paved the way for us?  Why do we try to sidestep, or re-invent the wheel, instead of just following the steps and trusting the process?

When that little boy made the walk from his Dad to his Mom, they both practiced with him over and over and over, day in and day out.  The first time, he fell and was most likely frustrated, and Mom and Dad were there to cheer him on and let him know it was okay.  But, each day, he got better and better until he was at that point where his legs were strong enough and HE was ready to go from crawling to walking.

Trust the Process

Too often than not, we think we know better than others; we don’t need help or coaching.  “Oh, I know that already,” or “I don’t need to know THAT,” or “I’ve already done that, I don’t need to go through that again.”

When did we become “Know-it-All’s?”

Is the process of learning a new skill or being trained by someone else any different than the little boy learning how to walk?  Do we feel that at a certain age we don’t need to be taught anything else?  Do we really think we know EVERYTHING?!?!?!  

When you stop LEARNING, you stop GROWING!!!  Every day is a new day to get better at something or learn something new.  I love learning.  I try to be like a sponge all the time because I’ll be the first to admit that I don’t have all the answers.  I will never claim to know it all.  How can I?  I haven’t experienced everything there is out there to experience.

And neither have YOU!!!

Look at Every Day as a Chance to Become a Better YOU

One of the great things about life is that many things and people are put before us to make us better.  Even those who hurt us.  It’s important not to dismiss the bad and only search for the good.  For it’s those obstacles and “bad times” that builds us up, teaches us what not to do next time and become stronger, better, wiser.  Make every day a new lesson and add it to your Book of Life.  Read a book, take up art, learn to cook, go BASE jumping, ALWAYS be a work in progress and explore who you are.



Trust the process, never stop learning, check your ego at the door, let others teach you and be OPEN!!!

You never know who you might discover.

Stepping Back, Recharge and Getting a Fresh Perspective – 100 Day Blog Challenge Day 10

Sometimes Our Biggest Obstacle is Ourselves

I ALWAYS get giddy!!!

Do you ever have one of those days where it starts off on a positive note and then it takes a slight dip?  Well, today was one of those days.  I was super excited, because a package was scheduled to arrive today and I turn into a kid on Christmas morning.  I knew what is was, but that anticipation is just so awesome.  Anyhow, my package arrived, and I had some pleasant surprises in the box.  Oh, how I love a little extra.

As the day progressed, things started to shift.  I had some work do do and I asked the boys to give me an hour so I could do my work.  I should know that it goes in one ear and out the other.  Thankfully, I was speaking with a friend who’s also a Mom, but it’s can be so frustrating when you ask for that time.

I felt like I was on overload, so I shut down.  Once the boys went to bed, I shut down my laptop, lights and gave myself permission to take a break.  That 90 minutes off felt so good.  I took a little nap, woke up and felt rejuvenated.  It also gave me a chance to evaluate myself, if that makes sense.  As my subtitle states, “sometimes our biggest obstacle is ourselves.”

Why do we, or at least, I (I can only speak for myself) over complicate things?  Just keep it short and simple.  Just be yourself, honest and speak from the heart.  People will be able to tell whether or not you truly care about their well-being, or if you’re trying to “get” them.  This particular instance didn’t happen with me today, but after I shut down for that little bit, I did a self-evaluation and this came to mind.

Tackling the Fears and Keeping Connected

Today, people are afraid.  This is a scary time for so many and not sure what the future will hold.  The last thing someone wants is to feel as if they’re being short-changed or taken for a ride.  I was just listening to a training, and one of the things discussed is the importance of keeping connected with others.  Touching base, and I don’t mean via text, email, or even Facebook.  But a good old-fashioned phone call.  When was the last time you picked up the phone and had a conversation with someone?  Does anyone else still do this anymore?

When was the last time you received a letter or card in the mail just because?  These days, all that shows up in the mail are bills and flyers.  Remember pen pals?  What ever happened to sending hand-written notes to others letting them know you’re thinking of them and hope they’re having a good day.

Sometimes we are our biggest obstacles and the thing we need to do is go back to the basics.  Reach out to someone who’s been on your mind.  Pick up the phone, call, write a letter, send smoke signals, WHATEVER.  Reconnect with the person you’ve fallen out of with who you’ve been dying to contact.

I am so guilty of this and need to be more proactive.  the information age is great, but sometimes it can be overkill.  Shutting down for a bit has made a world of difference.  It’s opened my eyes and given me a clearer picture of what needs to be done.  So, next time you’re thinking about someone, reach out to them.

You just never know, you may change that person’s life that day.

Do something without expecting
anything in return



Let’s Talk About FEAR – 100 Day Blog Challenge Day 9

What is Fear?


Fear.  Four little letters that have such a BIG impact on our lives.  What is fear?  False Evidence Appearing Real (or False Expectations Appearing Real.)  It’s what we perceive in our minds and what we sometimes let consume us.

I’m guilty of being afraid of lots of things.  I’m not gonna lie, but there are times when the fear takes over.  When I look back on all the things I was “afraid” of, it turned out to me making mountains out of mull hills.  

What are some of my fears?  

Opening up to people – letting my guard down.  Too often than not, I look for the good in others because it is my belief that we are all good in some way.  Sometimes that has come back to bite me and I become more of an introvert and not want to let people in.

Change – change is a good thing because we tend to get very comfortable where we are. Be willing to step out of your comfort zone because that’s where all your dreams and achievements are found.  Embrace change.  Change is good and necessary.

Failure – this one has so many levels, it’s not even funny.  Failure as a parent, wife, business woman, friend, in life.  Failing to live my life to its fullest potential.  Why do we do this to ourselves?  Or at least why do I do this to myself?

Rejection – rather hearing “no.”  When someone tells us no, we tend to take it personally.  But, what we have to realize is the no is not to you, but to the situation.  Or, it could mean “not now.”  Learn to get past the no, embrace it and move on.

Success – when things are going bad, we know what to expect.  We’re more acceptable of the downfalls, because we can pick apart what could be improved.  But when things are going GREAT, you tend to wonder when the ball is going to drop or when will the rug get pulled from under you.  Success can come in many forms, and no matter how big or small, those accomplishments pave the way for better things to come.

What’s the cure for FEAR?

Do it anyway!!!  I’ve heard this over and over in many forms.  Do it afraid.  You’ve got an adrenaline rush, your palms are sweaty, your heart’s racing and that’s the BEST time to take action.  Inactivity breeds fear; activity breeds results.  When I first started this blog challenge, I was afraid of what the reaction of others would be.  Will anyone read them?  Will it make sense?  Will others get it?  WHO CARES?!?!?!  Just do it!!!  Let the chips fall where they may and things will happen.  Trust the process.

What are your fears?  What have you been putting off because you were afraid of the results?  Take action.  Do it anyway.  It’ll be hard in the beginning, but once you get over that hump, everything else is smooth sailing.

Conquer your fears – take action and put those fears to rest.



Embracing Change

Change…it’s such a hard thing to grasp sometimes.  I mean, why do things have to change?  Can’t things just remain the same?  I don’t always think this way, but this has come into play fairly recently on many different levels.

This week, my hubby left for work in Alberta, Canada, which is about 3,000 miles and 3 time zones away.  We knew this was coming, and waiting for the call for a new job, but the reality setting in was a different story.  At first, I was just numb.  I didn’t know WHAT to feel.  It’s  not like this was something new.  This has been my life for the past 7 years.  What made it different was he’d been home for the past 14 months or so.  While our finances took a hit, something else happened…we were a family.  The boys got to know their Dad and he got to know them.  We were a unit and it almost felt normal.  So, when we had to watch him get on a plane Monday morning, it was a little surreal.  Hearing and watching Elijah, our oldest, break down begging for his Dad to stay home was a whole new level of “whoa.”

It’s amazing how one person or one event can have such an impact on your life.  We know it’s for the greater good, and at least he’ll be home every two weeks, but transitioning back to single mother duties is going to be a challenge.  It already has been a challenge.  The emotions, the adjustments, EVERYTHING has shifted.  We’ve all had to make some changes and it’s been a little rough.  Day 3 of Operation Single Mom has commenced, and so far, 80, no 70, no 60% of the kinks have been worked out.  This is going to be a process.

Change has happened in other areas of my life as well.  I’ve embarked on a fitness lifestyle since 2010, and it’s been going great.  So far, my favorite instructor is Chalene Johnson.  I’ve done 3 rounds of TurboFire, and finished ChaLEAN Extreme in December.  This month, I started RevAbs, and as I posted in one of my fitness groups, I was not feeling it.  Here’s what I posted:
“Hey Fitness Pals, so I’ve been doing the RevAbs program now for 17 days, and wasn’t really feeling it (hence the addition of TF here and there.) Then it dawned on me. The reason why I haven’t been getting into it is because I haven’t ALLOWED myself to accept the new workout. I’ve been so used to Chalene Johnson’s technique that I kind of compared the two. I wasn’t open to the change. We all know how we tend to react to change, right? So, this morning when I popped the Power Intervals DVD in for class today, I made a mental note to myself to let go and embrace the workout. Wow, what a difference it made. By changing my mindset just a tiny bit, allowed me to not only have a great workout (I finally did a couple of the full-on Squat Thrusts) but I actually had FUN!!! So, there’s my thought for the day. Embrace change, because it’s what will get you to where you want to go. Take care, and be well, my friends.”

This post is actually what inspired me to write this blog.  Change is hard; change is tough; change forces us to, well, CHANGE!!!  And sometimes we just don’t want to.  But when we are willing to let go, embrace change, and allow what happens to happen, we may be pleasantly surprised at what we find on the other side.

We’re 23 days into 2013, and I vowed this would be a year of change.  I am currently redoing Chalene Johnson’s 30 Day Challenge, which has totally given me a new found energy and drive to tackle my goals.  I have noticed my confidence level coming back; I have more posture and I am handling my tasks with a go-get ’em attitude.  It’s still a process, and by no means am I where I want to be.  But this challenge has given me to push I need to get back on the saddle, re-evaluate my priorities and do the things that will give me the results I seek.

As far as my business goes, I have my goals in place, and doing the right activities that will lead me to my goals.  Many will disagree, many will argue.  Those who catch the vision and see what I see will partner with me and I will help them reach their goals. 

So, while change may be scary, uncomfortable and downright awful to swallow, EMBRACE it!!!  This is a new year to make your dreams come true.  So, decide what you want, seek the information to get you there and put a plan in place to make it happen.

Take care, be well, and until we meet again, never stop dreaming!!!  Here’s to achieving our goals.