A Mother’s Job is Never Easy (or Done)
When my boys were younger or when people would hear I’m a Mom of 3 boys, the immediate response was, “Boy, you’ve got your hands full.” To be in honest, in the beginning, I didn’t see what was the big deal. For the most part, they got along FAMOUSLY and were so cooperative. I told them to do something, and they did it (most of the time) without too much arguing. I just didn’t see the big deal.
Fast forward to 2014, and now I see the big deal.
My boys are now 8, 6 (in 2 weeks) and 4. The way they act lately, you would think they were in their 30s or 40s. Today felt like the day from HELL!!! They weren’t listening, they were fighting, attitudes, meltdowns, on and on and on!!!
|You know, I can totally see them
like this 10 years from now…
The first instance happened while I was taking a shower (yeah, even to do THAT takes skilled planning.) Anyhow, I’m enjoying a little me time (I’ll take it whenever and wherever I can) and then it sounds like World War 3 hit. First, a loud scream, followed by a screeching cry and yelling. So much for a relaxing shower. When I get out there to “diffuse” the situation, they’re upset because one won’t listen, another comes over to intervene and act like the “parent” so the other 2 start a mutiny and….the domino effect at its worst.
This wasn’t necessarily the first instance, but I made it crystal clear that under NO circumstances are they to wreak havoc. Yeah, that worked out famously. In the end, since they decided to act up with me in the room, I grounded them from video games for a week and put the fear of God in them that much worse would happen if they didn’t smarten up.
There are days when it feels as if EVERYTHING I’m doing as a Mom is wrong or I’ve missed the mark. What’s the right way to raise the boys? When do you step in and discipline? Is it too harsh? Is it too lenient? Is anything getting through to them? Do they even CARE?!?!?! What’s the right answer?
I’ve come to realize that when it comes to parenting, there is NO right answer. What works for one may not necessarily work for the other. This doesn’t really give me a lot of comfort, because it would be nice if the bickering wouldn’t be at RIDICULOUS SPEED every 2 minutes!!! I understand there will be sibling rivalry, but, my goodness must there be so many rivals?!?!?!
|Take me AWAY!!!
It’s hard, VERY hard, and I’m not complaining, but, it would be nice to have the bickering stop for one day. I’m sure this is part of the growing process and this will pass; heck, they really do get along great when the smoke clears. It’s pretty amazing watching the three of them work together or come together on things. It’ll usually be short lived, but I do revel those moments.
They’re great kids, I hear it from so many people all the time, because it’s true. I’m not just saying this because they’re mine. They do great things all the time and it’s my hope that the lessons we’re teaching them is sinking into their brains and they remember them as they get older. I’m also sure that when they’re parents and they’re getting together for their annual whatever, they’ll look back on these days and laugh.
I know I am, but at the time, it wasn’t very funny.
The boys are asleep, and as usual, they are always peaceful, angelic, and so awesome when they’re not talking. It always brings me back to when they were babies – so young, innocent, and no ability to speak. We just couldn’t skip that part of their growing process, huh?
|The saga continues…
This book has many chapters, addendum’s and everything in between. I love my boys and I am so blessed to be their Mom. It’s a lot of fun, I wouldn’t change it for anything. I’m also human, I have feelings and there are some days when I feel a good smack to the head just might do the trick.
Don’t judge, unless you’ve been there.
Yeah, I’ve got my hands full. I know this, it’s obvious, you don’t need to point it out. I wouldn’t have it any other way. My life would be empty. Despite it all, the craziness makes everything normal.
The saga continues…