What’s At the Top of Your Bucket List? – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 52

Top of My Bucket List

At first, I thought this was going to be easy.  It’s my bucket list – the things I’d like to do before I die.  But in reality, this was a tough one for me to come up with an answer.  I actually discussed this with my hubby to find out what is on the top of HIS bucket list.  What he said really got me thinking, because what he desires is not anything fancy, over the top, travel the world type of thing.  That really got me to think about what do I find very important and value the most that I would like to do before I die.

I’m still not sure what is at the top of my list, I’ll be honest with you.  I figured as I was typing, it would come to me.  There are lots of places I want to see and do (kind of coincides with my lottery post,) but to be at the top of my list, this thing has to be special.  Something that snowballs into the other to create that awesome list that I can look back on and say, “Yep, I did it all, and I’m happy.”

Disney World

The more I think about it, in order for me to really do the things that I want to do on my own time requires time and money.  So, in order for anything that I want to do to happen requires taking care of our finances.  Let’s be honest, what I want to do requires money, enough money that will keep us secure and without any worry.  Once we’ve taken care of our finances and are stable, I can focus on doing some traveling and photography.

I know this will happen, but what I want to really do is take my boys on a plane to Disney. It could be either Disneyland or Disney World; heck, it could be both, but my boys deserve this trip.  With the exception of my oldest (and he was 5-6 months at the time), my kids haven’t been on an airplane.  When I got back from my trip, the first thing they kept saying was how much they want to go on a plane.  For me, that would be a great thing to happen for them because I know how happy they would be.  In turn, that makes me happy.

But, this would be a different type of trip to Disney.  A few months ago, I heard how a section of Disney was blocked off exclusively for some of our business partners during their trip.  They received the red carpet treatment, no lines, no waiting, it was all fun.  That’s the type of experience I want for my family, a few close friends and their families.  There’s no way I’d do this all alone.  There’s got to be about 3-4 other families to take part in this as well. And one day, they will get it.

Disneyland

It WILL happen in the very near future!!!

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A New Day – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 48

A New Day

This week, the focus has all been about starting over.  Every day is a new day to be a

better YOU.  This has been eye-opening for me and I am learning a lot more about myself.  I’m having a blast, I’m really excited, and I’m pretty darn scared.  I know this will work, and others will see the potential if they will be open and willing to get the facts.

What does a new day mean to me?  It means that it’s okay to let go of the past and not let it define me.  Those mistakes can and will continue to be mistakes if I am not willing to recognize what needs to change and then change.  This also means, which has been known for a long time, that this is NOT about ME.  It never was.  It’s about others.  Helping others succeed in what they want.

Very uplifting, motivating and amazing weekend.  I keep saying this a lot, and there’s no other way to describe what’s happening.  It’s an experience that can only be described and understood if you are here with us.

What will YOU do to create/start YOUR new day?

Pictures will be coming soon.

My Boys Will Thank Me Later

I will say this about how I raise my boys…

In and out of our house, we have rules.  If they ask for something, they must use the words, “Please” and “Thank you.”  They must be respectful to their elders, and any adult in the room.  If they get out of line (use a tone or language that we don’t like) they will get a slap on the hand, mouth or bum so they learn their lesson.  They must clean up after themselves, do chores and help around the house in any way we see fit.  They must ALWAYS be there for each other, because at the end of the day, they are brothers and they have each other to lean on for support.

I am a strict Mom.  I can also be a bit uptight.  When we go out in public, I fuss over them, and make sure they behave themselves.  I dislike it when they try to overstep the boundaries, and they do test the limits ALL THE TIME!!!  I’ve yelled at them in public, I have made an example of them in front of other kids, and they know I will call them out at any time.

Why do I do this?  I am their MOTHER!!!  I am not their friend, I am not their equal.  I am their superior and they must respect my authority.  They MUST listen to their parents, they must follow OUR rules.  I’m not here to cater to their every need or give them everything they want.  They’ve heard me say “No” to some of their requests, they’ve seen me blow my top; they’ve seen me cry.  They say they will listen, not do it again, but 9 times out of 10, the cycle has started all over again.

There are times I wonder if the words I’m saying get through to them or if I’m just talking to the air.  I know they understand me and get what I’m doing.  I’m also not a complete ogre who walks around with the yardstick.  We have other rules that we live by in our home.  We sit down at the table for meals all the time.  We say grace before every meal.  We say prayers every night before bed.  We say “I love you” more times than you can imagine.  We give each other lots of hugs and kisses and we say “Sorry” when we’ve done something wrong.

My boys won’t be boys for very long.  Next month, my oldest starts the 3rd grade and my middle is entering Kindergarten.  By next year, ALL 3 boys will be in school and there are going to be pressures from kids at every angle.  They are BOYS.  They are impressionable.  They are smart.  They are talented and they have a bright future ahead.   As their Mother, it is my job to ensure they are prepared for the world – the good, bad and ugly.  They will make mistakes, and hopefully they will learn from them.  We have a pretty strong bond and they feel comfortable telling us their troubles and I hope it continues as they become TEENAGE BOYS.

One day, they will grow up and become MEN.  They will hopefully have a great education, a successful career of their choosing (even if they decide not to partner up with me) and eventually (hopefully) they will fall in love, get married, and have children of their own.  Then and ONLY then, will they understand WHY I was so strict with them as babies.  One day, they may even have a baby girl (or 2 or 3) of their own who will grow up to be a teenage girl and eventually a WOMAN.  They will want their daughter to respect herself, her body and treat it like the temple it is.  They will want their daughter to know that her beauty comes from within and not have to seek it in the wrong places.  They will want their daughter to know and understand that saying “NO” is okay if something doesn’t feel right and that at ANY TIME, they can call on their Dad for help if needed.

My boys may not like and or appreciate all the rules and structure now, but when they get older, they will thank me later.  Why?  I am their Mother, I love them very much and it’s MY job to help raise them to become true GENTLE MEN!!!

Take care, and be well.