What Are You Looking Forward To? – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 92

What Am I Looking Forward To?


There are quite a few things I’m looking forward to.  First off, I’m really excited about the upcoming school year.  Yes, I know the kids just got out of school, but I’m looking forward to the next phase of our life when all 3 boys will be in school.  It’ll be quite a few firsts – the first time all 3 will be in school together all day and the first time I will be in a kd-free zone all day.  I’ve been joking around saying I’m gonna have a party and go wild and crazy, but I am readay to see what life and my days will be like without any kids.

I’m also looking foarward to the possibility of hearing an amazing speaker this September.  A little challenge was posted our way and it’s a little bit of a tall order.  It’s going to require me to really get over my fears, step up and take chances.  When I keep that determined attitude that I know I have (since I’ve done it in the past,) there’s no reason why I can’t make the trip to Montreal to hear this person speak live and have the chance to sit down and speak with him on a personal level.

So, these are the two things I’m most looking forward to.  They’re coming up, so I’ve got to step it up.  I’m up for the challenge, and can’t wait to see what I accomplish.

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Father’s Day – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 76

Happy Father’s Day

Today is Father’s Day; the day we celebrate Dads and father figures who are out there doing their thing.  For me, today was a crazy emotional day.  I couldn’t put my finger on it originally, but I’d say around mid-afternoon, I snapped.  I’m not even sure what triggered it, but I was an emotional wreck and unfortunately, my kids got the brunt of it.  Oh, man, talk about a downward spiral.  I mean, this is supposed to be a celebration of Dads everywhere who really don’t get the recognition they deserve.  What do I do?  Have a nervous breakdown.

As I was reading through all the Father’s Day posts on Facebook, I was very surprised by how many were tributes.  I had no idea so many have lost their Dads either recently or for quite some time.  The parallels are all the same – there’s that void, a missing piece that’s hard to explain unless you’ve been through it.  I’m not sure if the “time heals all wounds” bit really works in this case.  I know it’s still fairly new for me, but some of my friends whom I’ve spoken with tell me it hasn’t healed.  Once again, it’s quite an experience.

The boys spoke with their Dad on Skype this morning, and Isaac, tonight’s night owl, go to say goodnight to him.  I’m thankful for these little ways to keep connected even though we’re miles apart.


My Mom called today and we chatted for a bit.  She tells me that every night she has dreams about Dad and they’re pretty much full-on conversations.  It’s as if he’s right there.  It’s a lot different for my Mom, and she seems to be okay.  But she sees him every night.  I still really haven’t seen him.  I’ve got my memories, but I haven’t had that vison from the other side or the conversation from the beyond.  I’m not sure if I will and for a while I thought maybe I was weird for not “seeing” him.

Some days are good; some days aren’t so great.  Those days that challenge you really put you to the test.  At least tney have for me.

I hope you all got the chance to celebrate Father’s Day with your Dads and/or father figures today; told him how much you love him and recognize that he’s one of the grat ones.  To those who share memories of their Dads because he’s no longer with us, I’m sending lots of love and hugs your way, and hope you were surrounded by lots of loved ones.

Take care, all, and be well.

It’s Not the Destination, It’s the Journey that Counts – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 67

Life is a Journey

“Get ready to
take the picture, Mom.”

My kids never cease to amaze me and today was no different.  Today, Isaac, Precious and I went for a walk.  Along the way, we made a few stops.  For me, I would be in “go” mode – getting my miles in and getting home.  Today, was different.  We stopped and spoke with one of our neighbors, we took our time and on the way back, Isaac picked dandelions and made wishes on them.  As I watched him do this, I realized that those moments are what makes life so enjoyable.  The look on his face was priceless.

Making his wish

We continued on our walk and we came upon an apple tree in bloom.  We stopped again and took pictures and once again, I watched as Isaac reveled in all the beauty that was around us.  Once again, I realized that sometimes I just need to slow down and appreciate what is around me.

Yeah, the bills need to be paid, the dishes need to be done, same story every day.  But in those moments this afternoon, they will be in my memories forever and I have to thank my little guy for that.

Making a wish on
a dandelion
Smile

He’s a kid of
many expressions
Love that face

Making the Adjustment – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 62

Getting Back into the Routine

First off, I just realized I am about 2/3 done with this blog challenge.  How did that happen?  That’s pretty exciting and the finish line is starting to emerge.

So, today was the first day back to our old routine of being a part-time single mom.  I think, no I KNOW we got spoiled and was so glad and used to having hubby/dad home.  It’s going to be yet another adjustment for all of us, but, we’re doing what we have to do to move forward.

Today was a bit of a challenge for all of us.  From getting them to pick up their toys to making their beds, to turning off the Wii, it was as if they turned off their “listen to Mom” switch or something.  We made an attempt to have an outing, and it was a case of Murphy’s Law.  Looking back on the whole experience, and after venting to my hubby, a lot of it could have been avoided and handled differently.  Hearing him say, “You kinda created your own mess” was a hard pill to swallow, and very true.  As much as the boys would like to have the dog on an outing to the Boardwalk, it just might not happen.  So, tomorrow, if the weather is nice again, we will wake up early and go for that bike/walk.  And that’s a BIG if!!!

The boys are asleep now, and it’s funny how things seem to come together AFTER they sleep.  I was about to share some pet peeves I have on raising boys, but that gave me an idea and I’m saving it for another blog post.  Today’s reflection for me is to take it one day at a time and each day will get better.  We’ve done this before and came out fine on the other end.  We will be fine once again this go around.

Keep moving forward!!!

What’s At the Top of Your Bucket List? – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 52

Top of My Bucket List

At first, I thought this was going to be easy.  It’s my bucket list – the things I’d like to do before I die.  But in reality, this was a tough one for me to come up with an answer.  I actually discussed this with my hubby to find out what is on the top of HIS bucket list.  What he said really got me thinking, because what he desires is not anything fancy, over the top, travel the world type of thing.  That really got me to think about what do I find very important and value the most that I would like to do before I die.

I’m still not sure what is at the top of my list, I’ll be honest with you.  I figured as I was typing, it would come to me.  There are lots of places I want to see and do (kind of coincides with my lottery post,) but to be at the top of my list, this thing has to be special.  Something that snowballs into the other to create that awesome list that I can look back on and say, “Yep, I did it all, and I’m happy.”

Disney World

The more I think about it, in order for me to really do the things that I want to do on my own time requires time and money.  So, in order for anything that I want to do to happen requires taking care of our finances.  Let’s be honest, what I want to do requires money, enough money that will keep us secure and without any worry.  Once we’ve taken care of our finances and are stable, I can focus on doing some traveling and photography.

I know this will happen, but what I want to really do is take my boys on a plane to Disney. It could be either Disneyland or Disney World; heck, it could be both, but my boys deserve this trip.  With the exception of my oldest (and he was 5-6 months at the time), my kids haven’t been on an airplane.  When I got back from my trip, the first thing they kept saying was how much they want to go on a plane.  For me, that would be a great thing to happen for them because I know how happy they would be.  In turn, that makes me happy.

But, this would be a different type of trip to Disney.  A few months ago, I heard how a section of Disney was blocked off exclusively for some of our business partners during their trip.  They received the red carpet treatment, no lines, no waiting, it was all fun.  That’s the type of experience I want for my family, a few close friends and their families.  There’s no way I’d do this all alone.  There’s got to be about 3-4 other families to take part in this as well. And one day, they will get it.

Disneyland

It WILL happen in the very near future!!!

Being Coachable and Learning When to Step Back – 100 Day Blog Challenge Day 7

The Teacher and The Student


Last night, before they went to bed, I asked my boys what they wanted for breakfast. They all said “Pancakes and Bacon.”  This morning, my 8 year old said, “Mom, would you teach me how to make pancakes?”


They’ve asked me all the time, they get all excited with the measuring and mixing, but then they would usually get tired or bored and go off to do something else.  Today was different.  My oldest REALLY wanted to learn, but I was still a little scared.  But, why?  I mean, when I was his age, not only was I in the kitchen cooking with my Mom, but I was helping raise my younger brother.

So, I willingly allowed him to help, and boy, was he eager.  He got out all the ingredients, the bowl, measuring spoons, pans and whisk.  He was on a pancake making mission.  Things were going really well – he did great with the measuring and he wanted to do the mixing.  I was a little hesitant, so I started it off.  I mean, the batter was full and some of it was stuck to the bottom – he may have had a hard time getting it all mixed…

One is ready to grow up, while the other is just not quite there yet.

The time came to start cooking the pancakes.  He didn’t want to pour the batter in the pan, but he wanted to do the flipping.  He did his first flip, and part of it landed on the edge of the pan.  He got upset.  I told him, it was fine, he did a good job and the pancake was still edible.  We went through this process for a bit, and by the time all was said and done, he managed to flip 12 pancakes with some minor hiccups.

He was proud of himself for helping, and I was proud of myself for not being too controlling.  My 5 year old wanted in on the action as well, so he got to flip the last pancake and the look of joy on his face was just priceless.

When all was said and done, we made 20 pancakes, scrambled eggs and turkey bacon for Saturday breakfast.  It was a joint effort, and a fun time was had by all.  They loved it so much, they wanted breakfast for dinner.  There’s nothing left of that food.

I just wish I had taken a picture of it all.  Oh well, next time.

This experience got me to thinking about what it means to be coachable, willing to learn and allow others to do for themselves.  As a Mom, I know that as my boys get older, they will be able to take on more responsibilities around the house, including cooking.  The fact that they are so eager to learn makes the process a little easier, but that protective instinct in me tends to kick into overdrive on some occasions.

I don’t want them to get hurt – or in this case, burned.
It’s difficult in the beginning.
It can be overwhelming.
They will make mistakes.
They will learn from those mistakes.
They will get better each time.

For my oldest, when he flipped that first pancake and it didn’t come out perfect, he was devastated.  To him, it was the end of the world, but I had to keep reassuring him that it was fine and he did a good job.  That little bit of encouragement made the difference and he did get better along the way.  He was also real excited because he got to turn on the burner.  That was like the Holy Grail of cooking for him at that point.

In life, we are always a work in progress, and we should be willing to learn from others.  As adults, this can be a challenge, for some. We’re set in our ways; we’re used to doing things a certain way; we’re in a rush and want to get it done right now.

Wait a sec…it’s the same mentality kids have.  

When you are open and willing to be coached by others, you gain the knowledge and skills necessary to move forward.  Whether it’s tying your shoe laces for the first time, cooking, reading, writing, starting a business, whatever it may be – as long as you are truly willing to be taught, you will go far.

It’s a matter of giving up control for just a little bit, taking the time to learn, being patient, making mistakes, and having fun along the way.  Then, once you’ve learned, you’re able to turn around and teach it to others.  The duplication process at its best.

This morning was a lot of fun for all of us.  We all learned something about ourselves today.

Now, if I can just get them to put their toys away on their own…

100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 4 – Keep On Truckin’…

And the Saga Continues…


It’s Day 3 of no power, and I feel like that’s all to discuss.  It’s kind of funny because when I decided to start this challenge, I really had some good topics that I wanted to share, but this darn winter and no power has taken over. 

GAH!!!

Oh well, I will go with the flow.

The last I heard, it was down to 1,800 customers still without power, but this experience has taught me some things:

1.  Make sure you have LOTS of batteries on hand
2.  Make sure you have matches/lighters on hand
3.  A better appreciation for what God provides
4.  Bonding time with the kiddos
5.  You become a MASTER of operating the generator

I must admit, when I first had to handle the generator, I was nervous and scared and a little of the “girl” on me started to creep out.  The challenge was using the crank because it’s so powerful, but now, it’s almost a walk in the park.  It still likes to put on a fight, but I ultimately prevail!!!



UPDATE – Two minutes after I posted my blog, the power came back on.  {Insert happy dance here!!!}

The kids went back to school today…the kids went back to school today!!!  I only had ONE at home with me!!!  That may sound a little harsh, but after having them home for March Break two weeks ago and then home since last Wednesday because of storms, that’s a little too much child for me to handle on my own.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my kids, they are my life, but they can be TOO MUCH sometimes, and having that little break keeps me sane.  I’m pretty sure my fellow Moms can relate to what I’m saying.  And there’s nothing wrong with needing and wanting some alone time.  It’s necessary and something that I need to work on more and plan to incorporate better in my daily routine.

Just Decide

I listened to a great training call from an amazing leader in our company who is also a Mom and hearing her story again really helped me put things into perspective.  All too often, we (at least I) tend to complicate things instead of just keeping it simple.  Everything always comes down to making a decision.  Once you do, things will fall into place.  It’s the Law of Attraction at its best and when I simply decide what I want, it’s amazing how the right doors open and the right people come into my life.  

So, I’ve made the decision…I’m moving forward and those who wish to follow on this amazing journey, great.  For those who choose not to, step aside.  There are plenty of people out there who are looking to make a change in their life.  Tired of the same hum-drum routine, and willing to do what it takes to go after what they want and have the life they deserve.

So, how about you?  What’s your decision?

Let me know your thoughts on what you’ve been reading.  Comment below, share your feedback.  I welcome all comments and will respond to you.  I appreciate you taking the time to learn more about me and read my thoughts.

Thanks for reading, and I will see you tomorrow for Day 5.