Take Out the Trash – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 75

De-Cluttering

What happens when you don’t take out the trash or allow things to just accumulate?  After a while, it starts to stink, you can’t conentrate, and it takes over.  It”s all consuming and nothing gets done.  It’s downright nasty.


Life is full of lessons and affirmations.  Fore me, I care too much.  I care about others and making sure they are well, happy, thriving.  Sometimes it can backfire because I care more than the individual.  When someone doesn’t “get it” or decides to continue down their current path, what I need to do is learn to love and relase them.  I’m getting better, slowly, but I am getting better at this.

This whack over the head “a-ha moment” took place this week.  Someone decided to go down a different path, and that is something I cannot change.  The only thing I am in charge of is my reaction to things.  When I don’t let things get to me and realize to dig below the surface, things will be fine.  Take what I need, throw away the rest, learn from it and move on.

What this week has taught me is that people change, they go sideways, and may never take the same path you’re taking.  All I can do is love them, release them and move on.  Taking out the trash, getting rid of the clutter and making room for something better.  When you get rid of the excees dead weight and allow the right people and things into your life, it’s amazing what happens.


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Taking That First Step – 100 Day Blog Challenge Day 16

You’ve Got to Learn to Crawl, Before You Learn to Walk


Today, I was actually at a loss of what to share.  But, earlier this evening, I saw a video posted of a young boy taking his first steps from his Dad to his Mom, while the Granddad
watched and recorded the whole event.  It lasted for about 40 seconds, but it spoke volumes.  The looks on the Mom’s face as her boy made those steps toward her; stumbling a couple times, then getting back up and finally with outstretched arms, reaches his Mom in what could only be described as the winning shot, was a sight to behold.

And that one video got me to thinking…

Why do we want to rush the process of success, or better worded, BYPASS all the necessary steps to success, thinking we have a better understanding of how to get there than those who have paved the way for us?  Why do we try to sidestep, or re-invent the wheel, instead of just following the steps and trusting the process?

When that little boy made the walk from his Dad to his Mom, they both practiced with him over and over and over, day in and day out.  The first time, he fell and was most likely frustrated, and Mom and Dad were there to cheer him on and let him know it was okay.  But, each day, he got better and better until he was at that point where his legs were strong enough and HE was ready to go from crawling to walking.

Trust the Process

Too often than not, we think we know better than others; we don’t need help or coaching.  “Oh, I know that already,” or “I don’t need to know THAT,” or “I’ve already done that, I don’t need to go through that again.”

When did we become “Know-it-All’s?”

Is the process of learning a new skill or being trained by someone else any different than the little boy learning how to walk?  Do we feel that at a certain age we don’t need to be taught anything else?  Do we really think we know EVERYTHING?!?!?!  

When you stop LEARNING, you stop GROWING!!!  Every day is a new day to get better at something or learn something new.  I love learning.  I try to be like a sponge all the time because I’ll be the first to admit that I don’t have all the answers.  I will never claim to know it all.  How can I?  I haven’t experienced everything there is out there to experience.

And neither have YOU!!!

Look at Every Day as a Chance to Become a Better YOU

One of the great things about life is that many things and people are put before us to make us better.  Even those who hurt us.  It’s important not to dismiss the bad and only search for the good.  For it’s those obstacles and “bad times” that builds us up, teaches us what not to do next time and become stronger, better, wiser.  Make every day a new lesson and add it to your Book of Life.  Read a book, take up art, learn to cook, go BASE jumping, ALWAYS be a work in progress and explore who you are.



Trust the process, never stop learning, check your ego at the door, let others teach you and be OPEN!!!

You never know who you might discover.

Being Coachable and Learning When to Step Back – 100 Day Blog Challenge Day 7

The Teacher and The Student


Last night, before they went to bed, I asked my boys what they wanted for breakfast. They all said “Pancakes and Bacon.”  This morning, my 8 year old said, “Mom, would you teach me how to make pancakes?”


They’ve asked me all the time, they get all excited with the measuring and mixing, but then they would usually get tired or bored and go off to do something else.  Today was different.  My oldest REALLY wanted to learn, but I was still a little scared.  But, why?  I mean, when I was his age, not only was I in the kitchen cooking with my Mom, but I was helping raise my younger brother.

So, I willingly allowed him to help, and boy, was he eager.  He got out all the ingredients, the bowl, measuring spoons, pans and whisk.  He was on a pancake making mission.  Things were going really well – he did great with the measuring and he wanted to do the mixing.  I was a little hesitant, so I started it off.  I mean, the batter was full and some of it was stuck to the bottom – he may have had a hard time getting it all mixed…

One is ready to grow up, while the other is just not quite there yet.

The time came to start cooking the pancakes.  He didn’t want to pour the batter in the pan, but he wanted to do the flipping.  He did his first flip, and part of it landed on the edge of the pan.  He got upset.  I told him, it was fine, he did a good job and the pancake was still edible.  We went through this process for a bit, and by the time all was said and done, he managed to flip 12 pancakes with some minor hiccups.

He was proud of himself for helping, and I was proud of myself for not being too controlling.  My 5 year old wanted in on the action as well, so he got to flip the last pancake and the look of joy on his face was just priceless.

When all was said and done, we made 20 pancakes, scrambled eggs and turkey bacon for Saturday breakfast.  It was a joint effort, and a fun time was had by all.  They loved it so much, they wanted breakfast for dinner.  There’s nothing left of that food.

I just wish I had taken a picture of it all.  Oh well, next time.

This experience got me to thinking about what it means to be coachable, willing to learn and allow others to do for themselves.  As a Mom, I know that as my boys get older, they will be able to take on more responsibilities around the house, including cooking.  The fact that they are so eager to learn makes the process a little easier, but that protective instinct in me tends to kick into overdrive on some occasions.

I don’t want them to get hurt – or in this case, burned.
It’s difficult in the beginning.
It can be overwhelming.
They will make mistakes.
They will learn from those mistakes.
They will get better each time.

For my oldest, when he flipped that first pancake and it didn’t come out perfect, he was devastated.  To him, it was the end of the world, but I had to keep reassuring him that it was fine and he did a good job.  That little bit of encouragement made the difference and he did get better along the way.  He was also real excited because he got to turn on the burner.  That was like the Holy Grail of cooking for him at that point.

In life, we are always a work in progress, and we should be willing to learn from others.  As adults, this can be a challenge, for some. We’re set in our ways; we’re used to doing things a certain way; we’re in a rush and want to get it done right now.

Wait a sec…it’s the same mentality kids have.  

When you are open and willing to be coached by others, you gain the knowledge and skills necessary to move forward.  Whether it’s tying your shoe laces for the first time, cooking, reading, writing, starting a business, whatever it may be – as long as you are truly willing to be taught, you will go far.

It’s a matter of giving up control for just a little bit, taking the time to learn, being patient, making mistakes, and having fun along the way.  Then, once you’ve learned, you’re able to turn around and teach it to others.  The duplication process at its best.

This morning was a lot of fun for all of us.  We all learned something about ourselves today.

Now, if I can just get them to put their toys away on their own…