An Old Photo of Me – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 90

An Old Photo of Me

Well, now this is not a difficult thing for me to find.  It’s just finding the right old photo.   With all the Throwback Thursday photo posts on Facebook, this was not too much of a challenge.  There were quite a few I had in mind, and one in particular that I wanted to post, but I can’t find.

I settled on these two photos of me when I was 2 years old and was still living in Jamaica.  I don’t remember anything about this day, but my Mom would tell me stories about this picture and I’m always fascinated when I look at it.  Here I am in this little red dress sitting on this bench and I almost look like I’m hanging on for dear life.  It’s just too cute.  I especially like that my face is dirty with some food on the side – that just makes me smile.  The one below with me looking up at my Mom is priceless in my eyes and it’s another one of my favorites.  Pure innocence, love and trust.

Life was so simple back then.

There’s not much else to say, except I’ve always loved these photos and I’m glad I got the chance to share them with you.  Thanks for reading.

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Top 10 Momisms – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 63

Momisms (A Little Sunday Humor)

The other day, I came across this image, and I couldn’t help but laugh.  OK, right before I saw this image, I’m pretty sure I said most, if not ALL of these to my boys that day.  So, I wanted to talk about some of these Momisms that all Moms have said or will say at some point in their parenting career.

As a Mom, we want to be the best Mom to our kids and instill values, morals and raise them to be their best.  Then, they start talking, and it all goes to hell in an instant.

Here’s my take on these Momisms based on my experience with my 3 boys:

1.  “Why?  Because I said so, that’s why!” – Face it, this response is practically programmed in our brains the second we find out we’re pregnant.  If I had a PENNY for each time I uttered these words, I’d be a billionaire right now.  “But, WHHHHHYYYYYYYY, MOM?”  Seriously, don’t question me.  I told you to do something…DO IT!!!  End of discussion!!  Next.

2.  “I’m going to give you until the count of three!” – Let’s be honest, let’s be real.  When it comes to this saying, we don’t go to three.  It’s one; two; two and half; two and three quarters; two and…don’t make me say it…two and…I’m serious…don’t make me say…In the back ouf our minds, we are HOPING they get the hint that getting to three is doomsday.  But, they know we’re NOT going to three and even if we do, it’ll go something like, “OK, three…now…” We love using this just to feel like we’re in control.

3.  “It’s all fun and games until someone gets hurt.” – My version is, “Now, didn’t I tell you NOT to do that?  Didn’t I tell you someone was gonna get hurt?  Didn’t I?  Didn’t I?”  Insert smoke coming out of ears for an even more dramatic effect.

4.  “I don’t know is NOT an answer.” –  And it NEVER will be!!!  Yes, you DO know, so spill it!!!

5.  “I would never have talked to my mother like that.” – Or my grandmother, for that matter.  Sometimes they push the envelope and make a snide remark or two that causes me to give that double take eye-popping stare, “Oh no you didn’t” – look.  But, yes, I have said this to them a time or two, followed by smack to remind them who’s in charge.  Excuse me?!?!?!

6.  “I’m not running a taxi service.” – Or the maid, either.  Now that the boys are getting older and involved in more sports, I have become that Sports Mom.  They’re still fairly young and heaven help me once they reach the teen years.  I’m pretty sure I’ll have a full head of white hair by the time Isaac’s a teen.

7.  “If everyone jumped off a cliff would you do it too?” – I’m already starting to hear, “But so and so is going HERE!!!” or “But, so and so is doing THAT!!!”  My favorite is, “But, WHY can’t I do this?  So and so’s parents let THEM!!!”  My response, “So and so is not MY resposibility…YOU are!!!”  “And as long as you live under MY roof, you live by MY rules!!!” – oh, this is another one to add to the Momsims list!!!

8.  “Someday your face will freeze like that.” – No, it won’t.  There’s never been any scientific proof that turning your lips into a crazy get-up pose or crossing your eyes will all of a sudden go, “POP,” and freeze.  Although, that would be comical if it ever did happen to a kid.  I’d pay good money to see that.

9.  “It hurts me more than it hurts you.” – No it’s not!!!  Not in the slightest.  Maybe AFTER the fact, but at the time, oh no, it’s not hurting me.  It’s not even in the same time zone, because I told you already NOT to do that, or NOT to speak to me that way, and didn’t I tell you NOT to let me get to three?  They had more than enough warning.

10.  “Bob. Sue. Joe. Fido. whatever your name is.” – I remember when I first moved to PEI and my mother-in-law would get my hubby and brother in law mixed up a lot.  I’d say to her, “My goodness, they’re so many years apart.  How could you get their names wrong?”  She told me one day that when I had kids, I’d do the same.  Fast forward to my life now, and she is sooooo right.  Boy, did those words come back to bite me in the butt!!!  There have been times I’ve called all 3 names (“Stephen Eli, Jus, Isa..”) and then topped it off with, “Just all of you get over here!!!”  After a while, they all seem to blend in because they’re all doing something they shouldn’t be doing anyway.  So, at some point, they’re ALL gonna get in trouble.

Oh, the life of a Mom.  It’s always an adventure.  


Making the Adjustment – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 62

Getting Back into the Routine

First off, I just realized I am about 2/3 done with this blog challenge.  How did that happen?  That’s pretty exciting and the finish line is starting to emerge.

So, today was the first day back to our old routine of being a part-time single mom.  I think, no I KNOW we got spoiled and was so glad and used to having hubby/dad home.  It’s going to be yet another adjustment for all of us, but, we’re doing what we have to do to move forward.

Today was a bit of a challenge for all of us.  From getting them to pick up their toys to making their beds, to turning off the Wii, it was as if they turned off their “listen to Mom” switch or something.  We made an attempt to have an outing, and it was a case of Murphy’s Law.  Looking back on the whole experience, and after venting to my hubby, a lot of it could have been avoided and handled differently.  Hearing him say, “You kinda created your own mess” was a hard pill to swallow, and very true.  As much as the boys would like to have the dog on an outing to the Boardwalk, it just might not happen.  So, tomorrow, if the weather is nice again, we will wake up early and go for that bike/walk.  And that’s a BIG if!!!

The boys are asleep now, and it’s funny how things seem to come together AFTER they sleep.  I was about to share some pet peeves I have on raising boys, but that gave me an idea and I’m saving it for another blog post.  Today’s reflection for me is to take it one day at a time and each day will get better.  We’ve done this before and came out fine on the other end.  We will be fine once again this go around.

Keep moving forward!!!

What Is Your Most Proud Moment? – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 53

Proud Moments

Wedding Day 2005.
I like to joke and say Elijah
was the silent witness at the ceremony.

This is a very simple blog post.  There are 3 moments that I hold very near and dear to my heart.  The first is the day I got married.  I remember it like it was yesterday.  We were already engaged for about a year and a half and then we found out in January ’05 we were going to be a family.  So, we decided to get married in the courthouse, and it worked out perfect.  We joke all the time and say that the Man in Black married us, because he looked like Johnny Cash.  He was very serious with us, too.  He sat down with us prior to the ceremony and asked point blank, “Are you serious about this?”  Then he asked again, “Are you serious about this?  This is not something to be taken lightly and if you’re not serious, I will not perform the ceremony.  I appreciated that talk because it showed how much he values marriage.  It was a great ceremony, and we just celebrated 9 years in March.


2005 – Elijah’s first official photo.  It’s amazing how far
we’ve come from that day.

The other proud moments are the birth of my children. It goes without saying that these boys have made my life complete.  Elijah, my oldest, almost didn’t make it, and we call him our miracle baby.  We had a couple scares during this pregnancy.  First, there was the possiblity of him being a down’s baby.  There was a chance he had Trisomy-21, and we had to go over to IWK Children’s Hospital in Halifax for further testing.  After taking the Maternal Serum testing, it turned out he was fine, no signs of down’s, but regardless of the outcome, we were going to see the pregnancy to term.  He was a full-term baby, but there were complications on delivery day, which lead to an emergency C-section and he wasn’t breathing when he was born.  Both his lungs collapsed, he had to be revived and was ulitmately flown over to the IWK.  I didn’t get to hold him or hear him cry until he was two days old.  Today, you couldn’t tell he had any complications and he’s about to turn 9 this year.

2008 – Justus makes his appearance into the world.

Justus, our middle child, was very emotional time when it came to his birth.  We were excited, nervous, scared and on pins and needles.  I know I was because all I kept thinking about was 2 1/2 years earlier.  It was another c-section and this time, we all heard a cry.  I cried, hubby cried, the staff in the room cried, and it was the best sound I ever heard.  Justus turned 6 this year, is finishing up Kindergarten and is simply thriving.  He’s a little reserved, quiet and sometimes likes to be on his own, but he is so smart.  He loves to build, draw, color and design.  He fell in love with building blocks at 6 months and would color-coordinate the blocks as if it were second nature to him.  He’s the same way today, and heaven help anyone who tries to mess up his creations.  He can be very quiet, but when he makes his presence known, watch out.  That’s the Taurus coming out of him.  He also has a smile that will melt your heart.

2009 – Isaac at 2 days old.  This is one of
my favorites.  He still makes this face when
he sleeps. 

As for Isaac, our youngest, well, he was always a spit-fire, even in utero.  Again, we had a scare and the possiblity of down’s, so it was back to IWK for further testing, which later showed he was fine.  Isaac’s journey into the world was also interesting.  This was right around the time of H1N1.  The day before our scheduled c-section, it seemed like everyone was getting the H1N1 vaccine (shots) and this ended up being a family affair.  Can you imagine sitting there, one day before my surgery getting the H1N1 shot?  Anyhow, that happened, and the following Friday morning, I was on my way to the hospital.  Isaac came into the world letting everyone know he was here and let his presence be known.  I remember because of the H1N1 fiasco, visitors were only limited to one family member a day, and thankfully, the boys got to see their brother before it was enforced.  Isaac is very fun-loving and always has a smile and a “hi” for everyone.  He feels it’s his job to make everyone smile.  He will be 5 this year, and can’t wait to start Kindergarten in the fall.

So, these are my proud moments; moments that I wouldn’t trade for anything.

My best creations.


Being Coachable and Learning When to Step Back – 100 Day Blog Challenge Day 7

The Teacher and The Student


Last night, before they went to bed, I asked my boys what they wanted for breakfast. They all said “Pancakes and Bacon.”  This morning, my 8 year old said, “Mom, would you teach me how to make pancakes?”


They’ve asked me all the time, they get all excited with the measuring and mixing, but then they would usually get tired or bored and go off to do something else.  Today was different.  My oldest REALLY wanted to learn, but I was still a little scared.  But, why?  I mean, when I was his age, not only was I in the kitchen cooking with my Mom, but I was helping raise my younger brother.

So, I willingly allowed him to help, and boy, was he eager.  He got out all the ingredients, the bowl, measuring spoons, pans and whisk.  He was on a pancake making mission.  Things were going really well – he did great with the measuring and he wanted to do the mixing.  I was a little hesitant, so I started it off.  I mean, the batter was full and some of it was stuck to the bottom – he may have had a hard time getting it all mixed…

One is ready to grow up, while the other is just not quite there yet.

The time came to start cooking the pancakes.  He didn’t want to pour the batter in the pan, but he wanted to do the flipping.  He did his first flip, and part of it landed on the edge of the pan.  He got upset.  I told him, it was fine, he did a good job and the pancake was still edible.  We went through this process for a bit, and by the time all was said and done, he managed to flip 12 pancakes with some minor hiccups.

He was proud of himself for helping, and I was proud of myself for not being too controlling.  My 5 year old wanted in on the action as well, so he got to flip the last pancake and the look of joy on his face was just priceless.

When all was said and done, we made 20 pancakes, scrambled eggs and turkey bacon for Saturday breakfast.  It was a joint effort, and a fun time was had by all.  They loved it so much, they wanted breakfast for dinner.  There’s nothing left of that food.

I just wish I had taken a picture of it all.  Oh well, next time.

This experience got me to thinking about what it means to be coachable, willing to learn and allow others to do for themselves.  As a Mom, I know that as my boys get older, they will be able to take on more responsibilities around the house, including cooking.  The fact that they are so eager to learn makes the process a little easier, but that protective instinct in me tends to kick into overdrive on some occasions.

I don’t want them to get hurt – or in this case, burned.
It’s difficult in the beginning.
It can be overwhelming.
They will make mistakes.
They will learn from those mistakes.
They will get better each time.

For my oldest, when he flipped that first pancake and it didn’t come out perfect, he was devastated.  To him, it was the end of the world, but I had to keep reassuring him that it was fine and he did a good job.  That little bit of encouragement made the difference and he did get better along the way.  He was also real excited because he got to turn on the burner.  That was like the Holy Grail of cooking for him at that point.

In life, we are always a work in progress, and we should be willing to learn from others.  As adults, this can be a challenge, for some. We’re set in our ways; we’re used to doing things a certain way; we’re in a rush and want to get it done right now.

Wait a sec…it’s the same mentality kids have.  

When you are open and willing to be coached by others, you gain the knowledge and skills necessary to move forward.  Whether it’s tying your shoe laces for the first time, cooking, reading, writing, starting a business, whatever it may be – as long as you are truly willing to be taught, you will go far.

It’s a matter of giving up control for just a little bit, taking the time to learn, being patient, making mistakes, and having fun along the way.  Then, once you’ve learned, you’re able to turn around and teach it to others.  The duplication process at its best.

This morning was a lot of fun for all of us.  We all learned something about ourselves today.

Now, if I can just get them to put their toys away on their own…

100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 4 – Keep On Truckin’…

And the Saga Continues…


It’s Day 3 of no power, and I feel like that’s all to discuss.  It’s kind of funny because when I decided to start this challenge, I really had some good topics that I wanted to share, but this darn winter and no power has taken over. 

GAH!!!

Oh well, I will go with the flow.

The last I heard, it was down to 1,800 customers still without power, but this experience has taught me some things:

1.  Make sure you have LOTS of batteries on hand
2.  Make sure you have matches/lighters on hand
3.  A better appreciation for what God provides
4.  Bonding time with the kiddos
5.  You become a MASTER of operating the generator

I must admit, when I first had to handle the generator, I was nervous and scared and a little of the “girl” on me started to creep out.  The challenge was using the crank because it’s so powerful, but now, it’s almost a walk in the park.  It still likes to put on a fight, but I ultimately prevail!!!



UPDATE – Two minutes after I posted my blog, the power came back on.  {Insert happy dance here!!!}

The kids went back to school today…the kids went back to school today!!!  I only had ONE at home with me!!!  That may sound a little harsh, but after having them home for March Break two weeks ago and then home since last Wednesday because of storms, that’s a little too much child for me to handle on my own.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my kids, they are my life, but they can be TOO MUCH sometimes, and having that little break keeps me sane.  I’m pretty sure my fellow Moms can relate to what I’m saying.  And there’s nothing wrong with needing and wanting some alone time.  It’s necessary and something that I need to work on more and plan to incorporate better in my daily routine.

Just Decide

I listened to a great training call from an amazing leader in our company who is also a Mom and hearing her story again really helped me put things into perspective.  All too often, we (at least I) tend to complicate things instead of just keeping it simple.  Everything always comes down to making a decision.  Once you do, things will fall into place.  It’s the Law of Attraction at its best and when I simply decide what I want, it’s amazing how the right doors open and the right people come into my life.  

So, I’ve made the decision…I’m moving forward and those who wish to follow on this amazing journey, great.  For those who choose not to, step aside.  There are plenty of people out there who are looking to make a change in their life.  Tired of the same hum-drum routine, and willing to do what it takes to go after what they want and have the life they deserve.

So, how about you?  What’s your decision?

Let me know your thoughts on what you’ve been reading.  Comment below, share your feedback.  I welcome all comments and will respond to you.  I appreciate you taking the time to learn more about me and read my thoughts.

Thanks for reading, and I will see you tomorrow for Day 5.

Rising to the Blog Challenge – 100 Day Blog Challenge

Day 1 – Another Day, Another Challenge


Challenges seem to bring out the best in me, and so I’ve decided to challenge myself once again so I can hone my blogging skills.  Hone?  How about FIND my blogging skills?!?!?!  My blogs have been very sporadic and all over the place.  I’ve got lots to say and just not sure how to say it.  So, yesterday, it hit me – if I am going to get better at blogging, I’m going to have to be consistent with blogging.


I’m not sure how this will pan out, but I am nervous, excited and looking forward to this challenge.  What will happen?  My hope is that over the next 100 days, I will develop a great desire to blog more often.  Some will be planned (i.e. reviews, essays, etc.), most will be on the fly, based on my emotions.  Some will be quick little posts, others novels.  But, I will always be honest and try to be as real as possible.

Thank you, in advance, to those who decide to follow me on this journey.  I welcome any and all feedback and hope these next 100 days will be a growing process for you and me alike.  Take care, be well, and thanks for reading.