How Others See You – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 64

You, Through the Eyes of Others

How do you see yourself?  How do others see you?  More often than not, the two answers can be quite different.  I started thinking about this recently because of a conversation I had with a friend of mine.  During our conversation, she told me that I am inspiring to others and a strong woman.  She was referring to the fact that I hold down the fort while hubby’s away and she wanted to let me know her thoughts.  I was humbled by her words, and then it got me to thinking about how we see ourselves compared to how others see us.

In my eyes, I don’t see myself as a strong woman.  I’m doing what I need to do.  We both knew what we were getting into when he decided to work out West and that a lot of the burden of raising our boys would fall on my shoulders.  Some days are better than others and there are days when I want to pull my hair out (today being one of them.)  I’m doing what I’m supposed to do because I wanted to be a Mom.  I also wanted to be a Mom who was home to raise her boys as well as runa business from home.  It’s not easy, it’s a lot of work, it’s very emotional, but I will do whatever it takes to provide the best for my family.

I once had another Mom say to me that I seem to have it all figured out and under control.  While I was flattered by her words, I in no way have it all figured out or under control.  I make mistakes every day, I say the wrong things sometimes, the boys rebel from time to time (once again, today rings loud and clear.)  But, I won’t broadcast my problems for the world to see.  People can be funny in some ways.  There are some who thrive on other people’s struggles and are secretly glad when they have problems.  I learned that from Brian Tracy’s “Eat That Frog” where he states to leave your problems at home because you have some who don’t want to hear about them and others who are glad it’s happening you.

On the flip side, or adding to this last thought, there are those who may see you as a threat or someone they want to be, but are too afraid to go after their dreams.  In turn, they will insult, degrade, find fault in everything you do because they haven’t done it themselves.  We all know or have been aroudn these types of people who ALWAYS find fault in others or make it about them; they’re just toxic.  They bring you down, suck the life out of you.  In these cases, as the saying goes, “don’t let negative and toxic people rent space in your head.”  Get rid of those people because they will do nothing for you and your mentality.  When you continue to hang around these negative people, you start thinking these thoughts as well, and you don’t want that to happen.

There should be a healthy balance in how you see yourself and how others see you.  Feed off the positive vibes you get from others.  The majority of the world see you this way.  This is a work in progress for me.  Like I said, I feel everyone should be this way.

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Inspiration – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 23

Inspiration is Everywhere

What inspires you?  What keeps you going?  Do you seek a higher power or are there people in your immediate circle of influence who you inspire you?

I’m inspired by many different things, people and everything in between.  I love quotes – they keep me going. Many motivational speakers, authors and historic figures give me the added push I need.  Some include Brian Tracy, John Maxwell, Mark Victor Hansen, Jim Rohn, just to name a few.  Most important, my family, especially my children, inspire me to always strive for my best, even on those days when I don’t feel inspirational.

Fairly recently, I’ve been on the receiving end of inspiration, and I’m speechless.  Never did I think I influence others.  Seriously, it may sound ridiculous, crazy, naive…but, in all honesty, for a long time, I didn’t see myself as someone who inspires others.  I just see myself as a woman doing her best every day and creating an amazing life for my family.  I’m very modest, humble, and someone who does NOT like the spotlight.  I’m a behind-the-scenes type of gal…willing to let others shine.  So, I’m always amazed when I get notes from others or hear that I have made a difference in someone’s life.  

It’s the truth.

For me, I look at myself as someone who’s plotting along, doing what I need to do to succeed.  I think the best way for me to explain is I don’t think I’m anyone special. I have a belief that we all possess a common sense trait that we should use.  I believe we all have the ability to succeed at whatever we desire, if we are willing to put in the work.  

Work Works

I’m no stranger to hard work. I do my best to put my best foot forward at all times.  I’m a work in progress; willing to learn.  I love learning…learning from others who can help me be a better person.  Others who are willing to show me the way, without doing it for me.  I am willing to put in the time, the effort, the sacrifice, the ridicule.  I don’t or rather, I won’t take the easy way out.  I want to know that everything I’ve accomplished was because I put my all into it.  Done by my hard work.

I love to work with and be around others who aren’t strangers to hard work.  Those who are willing to get into the trenches with me, get a little dirty, and come out clean on the other end.  Those who are willing to delay the instant gratification for the long-term gratification.  I love to surround myself with positive, people.  The people who inspire ME to be a better person.


Make a Difference

It really doesn’t take much to inspire others.  Eye contact is so key.  Say hello to someone; hold the door open; let someone go ahead of you; pay for someone’s coffee…the possibilities are endless.  Yes, pay it forward.  Make a difference; inspire.