An Old Photo of Me – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 90

An Old Photo of Me

Well, now this is not a difficult thing for me to find.  It’s just finding the right old photo.   With all the Throwback Thursday photo posts on Facebook, this was not too much of a challenge.  There were quite a few I had in mind, and one in particular that I wanted to post, but I can’t find.

I settled on these two photos of me when I was 2 years old and was still living in Jamaica.  I don’t remember anything about this day, but my Mom would tell me stories about this picture and I’m always fascinated when I look at it.  Here I am in this little red dress sitting on this bench and I almost look like I’m hanging on for dear life.  It’s just too cute.  I especially like that my face is dirty with some food on the side – that just makes me smile.  The one below with me looking up at my Mom is priceless in my eyes and it’s another one of my favorites.  Pure innocence, love and trust.

Life was so simple back then.

There’s not much else to say, except I’ve always loved these photos and I’m glad I got the chance to share them with you.  Thanks for reading.

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Taking That First Step – 100 Day Blog Challenge Day 16

You’ve Got to Learn to Crawl, Before You Learn to Walk


Today, I was actually at a loss of what to share.  But, earlier this evening, I saw a video posted of a young boy taking his first steps from his Dad to his Mom, while the Granddad
watched and recorded the whole event.  It lasted for about 40 seconds, but it spoke volumes.  The looks on the Mom’s face as her boy made those steps toward her; stumbling a couple times, then getting back up and finally with outstretched arms, reaches his Mom in what could only be described as the winning shot, was a sight to behold.

And that one video got me to thinking…

Why do we want to rush the process of success, or better worded, BYPASS all the necessary steps to success, thinking we have a better understanding of how to get there than those who have paved the way for us?  Why do we try to sidestep, or re-invent the wheel, instead of just following the steps and trusting the process?

When that little boy made the walk from his Dad to his Mom, they both practiced with him over and over and over, day in and day out.  The first time, he fell and was most likely frustrated, and Mom and Dad were there to cheer him on and let him know it was okay.  But, each day, he got better and better until he was at that point where his legs were strong enough and HE was ready to go from crawling to walking.

Trust the Process

Too often than not, we think we know better than others; we don’t need help or coaching.  “Oh, I know that already,” or “I don’t need to know THAT,” or “I’ve already done that, I don’t need to go through that again.”

When did we become “Know-it-All’s?”

Is the process of learning a new skill or being trained by someone else any different than the little boy learning how to walk?  Do we feel that at a certain age we don’t need to be taught anything else?  Do we really think we know EVERYTHING?!?!?!  

When you stop LEARNING, you stop GROWING!!!  Every day is a new day to get better at something or learn something new.  I love learning.  I try to be like a sponge all the time because I’ll be the first to admit that I don’t have all the answers.  I will never claim to know it all.  How can I?  I haven’t experienced everything there is out there to experience.

And neither have YOU!!!

Look at Every Day as a Chance to Become a Better YOU

One of the great things about life is that many things and people are put before us to make us better.  Even those who hurt us.  It’s important not to dismiss the bad and only search for the good.  For it’s those obstacles and “bad times” that builds us up, teaches us what not to do next time and become stronger, better, wiser.  Make every day a new lesson and add it to your Book of Life.  Read a book, take up art, learn to cook, go BASE jumping, ALWAYS be a work in progress and explore who you are.



Trust the process, never stop learning, check your ego at the door, let others teach you and be OPEN!!!

You never know who you might discover.

From a Business Standpoint, When it Comes to Relationships, Have We Missed the Mark? – 100 Day Blog Challenge Day 14

On Relationships

I recently read a post in one of the groups I’m in which asked the members to work on developing/building relationships with others in the group as opposed to simply posting a link to your opportunity and hoping something will stick.  This hit a nerve for me in a good way because I couldn’t agree more with that statement.  

I’ve noticed a trend lately of individuals who work from home joining multiple groups, posting their links and that’s about it.  This seems to be the new trend; almost a “post and run” type of strategy.  When you think about it, doesn’t it almost feel like those people you see on the streets wearing the sandwich boards yelling something and/or handing out flyers.  They almost become an eyesore and after a while, they just don’t exist anymore.  

Now, I am guilty of this type of “marketing strategy” as I have made blanket posts of these types sometimes as a form of desperation or thinking MY posts were going to stand out from all the others.  In reality, there was no substance, nothing that would really draw someone to WANT to reach out and find out what I had to offer.

I didn’t develop a RELATIONSHIP with people.

This, I feel, is where many of us miss the mark.  It’s not about joining a group then posting a link.  It’s about getting to know others.  Finding someone who “speaks” to you and reaching out to get to know them.  Think about all the relationships you’ve encountered.  Your boyfriend, girlfriend, friend, child, etc.  They didn’t happen overnight – there was a “courting process” so to speak.  You put your best foot forward, made sure your hair was combed, you smelled nice, you dressed nicely…you wanted to make a GREAT first impression because you really liked this person.  You wanted to make sure that the person of interest took notice in the RIGHT way and that you weren’t off-putting.

OK, with a child, the relationship building process is a little different, but there is still that element of trust that comes into play.  The person on the other end needs to feel a connection with you.  The need to feel that you are looking out for THEIR best interest and not YOUR bottom line.  People are very smart and can tell when they are being taken or trying to be “gotten.”  People don’t want to feel as if they are a trophy, prize or meal ticket, so to speak.  People want to know and feel that they can trust YOU!!!

These relationships take TIME!!!  They don’t happen overnight, and if you’re too aggressive, you just may lose that potential customer/business partner.  Take the time to get to know the other person.  Take a vested interest in THEM.  Find out about THEM.  Ask open-ended questions which gets them engaged in conversation, and then LISTEN!!!  Remember, we’re given 2 ears and one mouth for a reason.  Listen more, talk less.

Make mental notes about the person and remain engaged. Agree to keep in touch and always keep the conversations private.  Communicate via email, text message and if you’re local, once the time is right, arrange a time to meet.  Do you want to know what happens when you foster and develop that relationship?  You find a new friend, someone who becomes a PERSON with real problems and someone you can HELP!!!  What also happens is that person feels grateful to you for taking the time to get to know them, find out their quirks, likes, dislikes and develop that relationship.  Then, and only then, will they feel comfortable enough to WANT to hear what you have to offer as a means of help.

This isn’t fool-proof and not all people respond the same way.  But, the basic premise is the same.  It is and always will be about the RELATIONSHIP.  Keep building the relationship with others, show a genuine interest and caring attitude, and that will open more doors than any link ever could.


Living on Borrowed Time

On Thursday, May 16, 2013 at 12:46am, my Dad passed away.  He was 63 years old.  First, my brother called and left a message (I fell asleep and didn’t hear the phone,) then at 4:07am (my time,) I heard the news from my Mom.  I felt numb when I heard the news.  I thought maybe I heard wrong, because there’s no way my Dad could be dead  Growing up, you have this belief, or at least I did, that our parents were immortal.  They were the ONLY people on Earth who would live forever.  Am I the only one who thought this as a kid?  As an adult?  It just didn’t make sense. 

I guess I should start from the beginning.  On May 24, 2012, our lives changed forever.  My Dad was working, tried to take a drink of water and couldn’t swallow.  He pulled over, called 911 and was taken to the hospital.  What turned out to be a small concern ended up being a stroke.  He was in the hospital for about 6 weeks and it was a whirlwind of events.   My parents and brother live in NY, I live in Canada with my family and I wasn’t able to be there to help.  You can’t imagine the level of guilt that I felt every day.  I realize that it’s not my fault, but, I wanted to be there and couldn’t.  Nothing that anyone will say will take away that guilt.  Anyhow, despite a few setbacks, he was improving and getting back to his normal self.  Just 5 days prior, the boys and I saw him on Skype and he looked really good.  There’s got to be more to all this, because it really doesn’t make sense.  Hopefully we’ll get some answers very soon.

I went home to NY to be with my Mom and brother and we have been going through his affairs.  It’s quite the toll, let me tell you.  This was an experience that I wouldn’t wish on anyone.  The entire ordeal of the whole thing is a lot of work.  Be sure you are prepared mentally, emotionally, financially, etc.  It’s really important to make sure all your “i”s are dotted and “t”s are crossed.

I saw my Dad and said my goodbyes.  I had my closure and told him what I needed to say.  Hopefully he is at peace and perhaps he heard what I said.  I really do hope that he is at peace.  I think the stroke and being immobilized was too much for him, especially since he was such a vibrant, active, hard-working man.  This pretty much stopped him in his tracks.  But, I’m not sure.  He looked good, almost restful.

Aside from my maternal and paternal grandmother’s passing, this is the third death I’ve experienced and it’s given me a huge wake up call that we are all living on borrowed time.  Tomorrow isn’t promised to us; nothing is promised to us really, except life and death.  It’s what we do in between the two that really matters.

These past 2 weeks have been an emotional roller coaster, to say the least.  Some things were revealed that I thought only happened in the movies and has really opened my eyes to how I live my life and how I will live my life from now on.  I’ve often heard that you go through a metamorphosis when someone close to you dies, and I believe that to be true.  I do know this…no one is perfect, we all have our flaws and we are not going to make everyone happy.  That’s not why we are here.  If you’re living your life trying to make everyone else happy, you’re going to be miserable.  If you’re living your life as if you are invincible, you’re in for a huge reality check.  If you’re living your life as if you are God’s gift to the world, let me be the one to burst your bubble and tell you, “No, you’re not!!!  Get that chip off your shoulder and be decent.  You put your pants on the same as everyone else, you bleed just like everyone else.  Get over yourself.” 

It was great seeing my Mom, Brother, family and some of my friends that I was able to see while I was back in NY for the week.  Right now, I’m sitting at the gate in Toronto waiting on my last leg home to PEI.  My Mom is worried that I might breakdown when I get back.  I don’t think I will, but the reality hasn’t set in for me yet.  I haven’t cried much, but did get emotional last week.  Does it mean I don’t miss him?  Who knows.  Am I in denial?  I don’t think so – I saw him and he’s really dead.  I’ll be home soon, and I can’t wait to see my boys and give them all great big hugs and kisses – all 4 of them!!!

I’m not one to give advice, but, here’s what I do know – if you’ve been meaning to contact someone, pick up the phone and call them.  If you’ve done someone wrong, apologize.  If you’re hurt, tell someone.  Do right by others; do right by yourself and don’t be a know-it-all.  Be decent; be genuine; be yourself.  Tomorrow isn’t promised to us.  We really are on borrowed time.