It is NOT Easy – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 77

Don’t Trvialize My Business

I work from home.  I’m a Mom who works from home.  I work from home on a part-time basis because I am raising my children.  I work from home because there isn’t anything for me in the workforce and I do not want someone else raising my children.

These are some of the reasons why I am a Mom who works from home.  Notice I didn’t say I have a home-based business.  Why?  There’s so much baggage that comes with that term, along with a few others that get under my skin.  The main one which is this is EASY.

Easy?  Are you kidding me?

What part of working from home is easy?  Better still, what part about YOUR business do you feel is so darn easy that you have to trivialize others?  I see so many in social media who throw up all over people and are just shouting from the rooftops about how their business is so great and you can make thousands of dollars in hours, by doing nothing.  

Really?  Doing NOTING?!?!  REALLY?!?!?!

I have partnered with this company for just over 6 years, and I have been a very happy customer.  This company has helped my family in so many ways, I cannot begin to explain. Along the way, I have decided to introduce others to this company because I believe there is something here for them either personally, financially, physically and/or environmentally.  Some have seen the benefits…MANY have NOT!!!

I have been rejected numerous times.  I’ve been hung up on, told this is one of those; this is a scam; they’d rather buy their items at the dollar store because it’s cheaper.  I’ve been told that while the products make sense, they are very loyal to their brand and even though their brands are very harmful, should something happen, the government will take care of them.

Don’t get me started on THAT one.

I’ve had people tell me there’s no money in this business.  People get hurt and that you shouldn’t have to spend money to start a business.  There have been many who say that if they don’t make thousands in their first week, it’s a scam.  Those are people who I see as uncoachable and living on Fantasy Island.  Good luck with them.

I won’t go into all of the documentation and scientific facts that back up the credibility of this company and  why I have chosen to partner with them.  That’s for a personal one-on-one or webinar where you can get all the information.  What I will say is that for any business to work, you have to develop a relationship with others.  That seems to be lost in a lot of the individuals out there who claim to be big shots.

My point is, this business is NOT EASY!!!  You have to WORK, and for some, they have to work a little ore than others.  Even those “big shots” you see out there who are “making money,” how many of them have actually sat down with you and shown you what they do?  How many of them are willing to share their business report, and tell you the TRUTH?!?!?  If no one has told you in the past, you cannot get rich quick.  You have to WORK.  There is no way around it.  You have to put in the time, effort, and TIME (yes, I said that twice) in order to see results.  The results will not happen quickly, either.  It takes times.  Even if you start out of the gates quickly, you have to maintain that momentum, and that takes work and time.

Stop lying to people by telling them all they need to do is this or just do that.  It’s not that easy.  You’re setting people up for failure and putting your credibility in the toilet.  You’re also making us honest people look bad by destrying all the hard work we put in every day.

This weekend was a tough one for me.  I am a slow business builder.  I am building my business part-time because I still have a young one at home who requires my attention.  It’s a lot of work and it’s downright HARD.  You think you’ve found an ideal partner, and for whatever reason, they go sideways.  Or, you find someone and they’re not coachable, and want to re-invent the wheel.  Or you find someone who is so full of themselves and had to take credit for EVERYTHING.  I’ve had days where I wanted to trhow in the towel and say, “Forget this.  This is too hard.”  Then, I think about the alternative.  Putting in a resume, competing with others who are looking for work.  Not getting paid what I’m worth.  Being away from home and asking someone else for time off.  I look at my kids and what I would miss if I were to work outside the home.  That’s not for me.  That is not what I want to do.

So, I keep going.  If I have one of those days, I dust myself off and start over.

I love the analogy of the deck of cards.  You have 52 cards in a standard deck.  We’re all

looking for those Aces.  There are only 4, and 9 times out of 10, they all won’t be at the top of the stack.  What do we need to do?  Go through the deck until we find those Aces.  Most of the time, we find some good ones who decide to be your loyal customers.  Those are your number cards.  The face cards are your potential business builders who may go the distance.  But those Aces, they are rare and very hard to come by.  Many times we find those Aces and we’re not ready for them.  I’m guilty of finding and losing Aces.

And then you have the occasional Jokers that find their way in the deck.  These are the ones who make the most noise and cause a lot of trouble.  They’re the ones who are only in it for themselves, not willing to help others, giving false or half information and telling everyone this is so EASY!!!  These Jokers are the ones who make it very difficult for the rest of us.   Sometimes these Jokers disguise themselves as Aces and we don’t realize until it’s too late.  Sometimes your deck can be full of jokers and you’ve got to go through a few decks of cards to find your TRUCE Aces.

Even those who have told me no, I do my best to make sure we still have a great relationship and o bridges have been burned.  In the end, not everyone will see what I see, but that shouldn’t mean jeopardizing a relationship.  That’s something I’ve seen others do, which is really sad.

But all is NOT lost.  Those who win, I mean TRULY win in this business are the ones who show up every day.  DO the activities every day.  Navigate through the noise every day.  Keep going every single day and do not stop UNTIL they reach their goals.  

This business is NOT easy.  There’s a lot of work involved.  Not everyone will do this because they are not willing to look long-term.  They are only interested in the instant gratification and not willing to invest in THEMSELVES.  You’ll find more of these people than those who are all in.  Think long-term.  Don’t go for the easy one.  Put in the work, just like everyone else has.

It’s not easy, but it’s most certainly worth it.  My family is worth it.  Those who decide to partner with me and go all in are worth it.  They are worth it.

Are YOU worth it?

My New Website: A Work In Progress – 100 Day Blog Challenge Day 18

Yesterday was filled with lots of emotions and craziness.  I survived, learned from it and moved on.  Today has been focused on becoming a better ME.  I’ve been listening to lots of great trainings today that have not only blown me away, but given me the reassurance that I am on the right path.  It’s okay to brag about yourself every once in a while,  as long as it doesn’t come off as arrogant. 
I’ve come to realize that what I do helps others.  I “Pay it Forward, ” in a sense.  It’s all about helping others get what they want.   
I am a Coach. 
I am a constant work in progress and always learning as I go.  Once you stop learning, you stop growing.  So, I’m real excited about my new website and would LOVE for you to take a look.  Simply watch the 4-minute video and if you like what you see, please fill out the information and I’ll contact you to discuss further.  
Rest assured, the only person who will receive this information is me, so no worries.   I wouldn’t do that to you.   So, please CLICK HERE, to learn more, and I can’t wait to hear from you. 
Thanks in advance.
By the way,  it’s Day 2 blogging via my phone and I’m starting to get the hang of it.  But, it’s NOT something I can see myself doing long-term.

The Ugly Side of Business from My Perspective

This article was originally written and posted in February 2013 on a friend’s blog as part of a challenge.  I realized I never posted it to my blog, and am doing so now. Enjoy, comment, share, and come back often.  Thank you in advance.

The Ugly Side of Business from My Perspective

For many, people like to see and hear all the great things about working from home; how much money you can earn, the trips, cars, compensation plan, financial freedom, etc.  Those are all great things, they DO happen, and when it does, the world is your oyster.  However, many who decide to get into this business are not prepared for all the WORK involved.  In fact, I like to say, some are downright LAZY.  That’s right, I said it…LAZY!!!  Lazy to the fact that this doesn’t happen overnight, and the success stories of others also include plenty of struggles and hardships, sacrifices, late nights, early mornings, missed events, arguments, tears, struggles, hair pulling and many reasons to quit.  Many aren’t really prepared for what’s involved when you start your own business, and in reality, they just want the glory without all the hard work.  It’s not easy, but it’s worth it.

My Life as a Work from Home Mom

Working from home has its good and bad points, and I have seen and experienced quite a few.  When I say that some are downright lazy, I mean all they see are the dollar signs; the big bucks and THAT’S all they want.  What some don’t seem to realize is that it takes TIME.  I am in a relationship business, and what that means is you have to be willing to develop relationships with others before you even approach them about what you do.  People have to feel (and know) that you care about them and are looking out for their best interests.  

I remember listening to a training call from one of our top leaders.  She talked about when she connects with someone, especially if it’s someone she hasn’t spoken to for years, she will wait a whole YEAR before she even speaks to that person about the business.  I almost fell out of my chair.  I thought, “A YEAR?!?!?!  What is she crazy or something?  I don’t have a year.  It has to happen NOW!!!”  But that has stuck with me and I realize that she’s right.  I have to be willing to invest my TIME in someone; find out all that I can about that person; show a genuine interest and let them understand that I care about THEM.  It’s hard, even tempting to jump all over them with what I have to offer, but more often than not, that tends to scare people off.  This business isn’t going anywhere; in fact, it keeps getting better and better every day.  I like to think of the story of the Tortoise and the Hare, because sometimes, slow and steady wins the race.

Working from home has been a blessing and a curse.  A blessing in that I can roll out of bed and not have to worry about gas, tolls, day care, a boss, etc.   The downside is, because you’re home, you also have your other responsibilities.  The kids need you, the house needs to be cleaned, everyone needs to be fed, the bills have to be paid, time with your spouse, time, time, time, time.  Oh, and you are running a business from home.  As I am writing this, I’ve had to stop to tend to my oldest who’s been throwing up all weekend; help my youngest who almost had an accident; feed the boys (again) and break up a few fights.  This is LIFE, people.  You can’t turn it off!!!  What I have come to understand is there really is no such thing as TIME MANAGEMENT.  We all have the same 24 hours in a day; no more, no less.  It’s how we utilize our time that makes all the difference.  I make To-Do Lists, and do my best to follow that list as much as possible.  I’d say that I am 80-85% successful with maintaining my lists, and when I do, the results are mind-blowing.

Choices, Decisions, Action

Life and business are about choices, decisions, and action.  We can choose to be happy, sad, indifferent, etc.  We can decide which mood to be in and how to act on them.  You’re going to be dealing with many different personalities that will more often than not, clash with yours.  Others will look to you for guidance, support, encouragement, and to let them know that you will be there and lift them up.  However, when things aren’t going so great, some of those same people will look to you as the blame.  I’ve come to realize that regardless of what’s going on around me, my successes and failures are a direct result of MY actions…no one else’s.  Some will choose to go with you, some will start and leave, and some will take their own path.  But as long as you stay on YOUR course, you will get to your destination.

Overall, the Benefits Outweigh the Struggles

My experience working from home has had its ups and downs.  Lately, there have been more downs, but what I have come to realize is that just like life, my business hits some bumps in the road.  I’ve experienced success, failure, I’ve helped others succeed, watched others move forward, while others have turned the other way.  I’ve met some amazing individuals who have been such an influence on me personally, professionally and spiritually.  The friendships I have made, I will cherish forever, and my mentors have been my biggest support throughout this whole experience. 

The biggest and best reward of all is that I am doing it.  When I started my journey in 2008, I was scared out of my mind.  I had no clue what I was doing or what I got myself into.  But, I believed in what I saw, my values and beliefs were in harmony with the company’s mission statement, and I wanted a piece of the action.  It’s taken some time, but every day, I wake up and I set out to make a difference in someone’s life.  There are days when I don’t want to do it.  I don’t want to deal with the craziness.  I’ve dealt with lots of no’s – I think the no’s outweigh the yes’s most of the time.  I’ve had people tell me I’m wasting my time;  I should get a “real job;” I’m taking advantage of people and I will not succeed in this business.  It’s hurtful and I have to force myself to NOT take it personally.  At the end of the day, are those people who said no going to pay my bills?  Are they going to give me the life I want?  No!!!  That is up to ME and no one else.  On those days when it seems like the odds are stacked against me, I look at why I do what I do – my boys and my husband.  They trump everything else. 

I AM a success story.  I am very critical of myself and I need to look at all I have accomplished.  I have to learn to not compare myself with anyone except me.  Today, I have to be just a little better than I was yesterday.  I am making a difference in my life and the lives of others, and I celebrate all the victories I’ve accomplished.  I am thankful I was introduced to this company, and given the chance to create my dream life.  I truly love what I do, and I love when others are on board to change their lives as well.  It’s so much fun taking the journey with others and being part of a team.  I love seeing and hearing the success stories of others because they are doing what is necessary to succeed.   My journey is ongoing, and each day is a new chapter in my book.  I can’t wait to see where this journey takes me next.

Re-reading this blog has also prompted me to do a little series on this, so be on the lookout for more content on “The Ugly Side of Business” because there are many ugly sides.

2013 – A Year of Change and Making a Difference

Wow!!!  What an amazing year 2012 was, huh?  How was it for you?  It was an adventure a minute.  I experienced joy, sorrow, anger, fear, growth, setbacks, and I wouldn’t change any of it. You see, it’s helped me to grow into a better person, and realize that no matter what’s thrown at me, I can handle it.

And it only gets better from here.

So, 2012 is almost to a close and 2013 is knocking on the door.  My question to you is, are YOU ready?  

Are you ready to:

  • Make a change for the better?
  • Stop blaming others?
  • Take action?
  • Do something?!?!?!

I have seen (and heard) so many complain about how life sucks or they’re in a crappy job, relationship, everyone is succeeding and they’re still struggling, not making the money they want, tired of living from paycheck to paycheck, yada, yada, yada.

Here’s a wake up call, that may sound a little harsh, but definitely worth hearing – NO ONE IS GOING TO GIVE YOU THE LIFE YOU WANT!!!!  If you’re not happy with something, change it!!!  Stop crying over spilled milk, stop the complaining, get off the pity party train and DO SOMETHING!!!

In case you don’t know this already, I work from home, and I am so happy to be able to stay home, raise my kids, contribute financially, help others along the way, work with those I CHOOSE to and continue to make a difference in people’s lives.  Now, don’t get me wrong, this is WORK…HARD WORK.  Nothing was handed to me on a silver platter, no one came along and said, “Hey, D, I know you’re not happy financially, personally, spiritually.  Here, let me fix it for you.”  Absolutely not!!!  I made the decision to go after the life I want.  My goals, my dreams, my nest egg, my success.  

Every day I wake up and put in the time to create my dream life.  Some days are better than others, many times I fail, get stood up, told I’m wasting my time and should go out and get a “real job.”  If by “real job” you mean having someone else tell ME when I can eat, sleep, see my kids, determine my worth, when to take vacation, when to pee, when to breathe…thanks, but no thanks.  I’ve been there, done that, had my fill and won’t go back.  I’m in charge of my life – I determine my net worth, I determine who I work with, when I work, how long I work and how much I get paid, and let me tell you, it’s the best feeling ever!!!  For every setback, it’s one step closer to me reaching my goals.  No one is going to stop me.

So, what are YOU waiting for?

You put in 20-40+ hours a week for 50-52 weeks fulfilling someone else’s dreams.  Why?  Here’s why.  The promise is clear that when you put in so much effort every week, regardless of how much time you put in (most times more than your boss) at the end of the week, you get a check that doesn’t reflect your worth.  It’s almost second nature and accepted.  I’m here to tell you that if you put in that same amount of effort for a minimum of 5-10 hours/week working from home, you will create that dream life you seek.  I’m doing it, many members of my team are doing it, and we continue to help others every day do the same thing.

Why not you?  Why not NOW?

What’s the worst that can happen?  What are you afraid of?  What have you got to lose?  I’m here to tell you that you are worth more, you deserve more and we would love to help make that happen.  Knowledge is power, and all I ask is you seek the knowledge to make an informed decision.

I’ve partnered with a recession-proof company that specializes in:

  • Bridging the gap between finances in a down economy
  • Helping Moms and Dads stay home
  • Helping professionals earn additional income during slow months
  • Educating families on making their homes safer
  • Creating a reliable, supplemental income
  • Provide a solid Plan B
  • Help you create time freedom
  • And so much more

I am a wellness promoter and secondary income consultant.

I partner with others to help them open up wholesale accounts for a manufacturer; we set up a customer base that pays us both forever on those accounts because our customers maintain a monthly 95% reorder.  Would you like to sit down and take a serious look at this and see if you want to be one of my partners?

What have you got to lose?

I encourage you to take that first step in making 2013 your year of change.  That first step is always the hardest, but, once you make that decision, everything else will fall into place.  I’m excited about what I do.  I love waking up every morning and going to work down the hall.  I love helping others create their dream life and that can happen for you, too.  Get off that vicious cycle, reach out and learn more.  When you are ready to get started, please email me.  I’d love to hear from you; I’d love to help you.  I’m going to the mountaintop, others have come on board, and would love for you to take this exciting journey with us.  Are you coming?

Here’s to a great 2013.  I’ll see you at the top.