Keep Moving Forward – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 79

Keep Going

For the past few days, I’ve been pretty open and honest because, let’s face it, there are some people out there who are just plain evil.  People who have ill intentions toward others and will stop at nothing to satisfy their needs at the expense of others.

I shared my thoughts on what happens as you are building a business, the emotions that are involved and the importance of finding inspiration.  It’s also important to have an outlet – someone to talk to or something to express your feelings.  I’ll admit, for me, that is something I struggle with on a constant basis.  I let people in, poured my heart out and it was used against me; so there are times when I am very guarded.  At the same time, you need someone to talk to about your feelings, otherwise you’ll go crazy.

When things get tough (and believe me they will), there are going to be times when you

want to throw in the towel, give up and walk away.  It happens to all of us, and anyone who tells you otherwise is lying.  You can tell them I said so.  If the path you’ve chosen is truly the path you wish to travel, it always comes back to your WHY.  Revisiting your why daily keeps you on track, helps you to regroup and to have that laser sharp focus and keep the end in mind.

What has been your biggest struggle lately?  Did you feel defeated?  Lost?  Did you question yourself?  Wondering if it will ever be fun again?  Find someone you trust, share your feelings and that person could very well help bring you back on track, just by asking the right questions.  This was the case for me today and I was brought back to the light and back on track.  It’s pretty amazing the events that have taken place since that conversation.  It truly is powerful once you clear your mind and regroup.  Things start to fall into place and things start happening.

Realize people, events and life happens.  You’ll get quite a few curve balls thrown your way.  Find an outlet that helps you unwind and then get back on the horse and keep going.  You’ve got this.  You can do it.  Believe in yourself because you’re doing it.

Just keep going.

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It is NOT Easy – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 77

Don’t Trvialize My Business

I work from home.  I’m a Mom who works from home.  I work from home on a part-time basis because I am raising my children.  I work from home because there isn’t anything for me in the workforce and I do not want someone else raising my children.

These are some of the reasons why I am a Mom who works from home.  Notice I didn’t say I have a home-based business.  Why?  There’s so much baggage that comes with that term, along with a few others that get under my skin.  The main one which is this is EASY.

Easy?  Are you kidding me?

What part of working from home is easy?  Better still, what part about YOUR business do you feel is so darn easy that you have to trivialize others?  I see so many in social media who throw up all over people and are just shouting from the rooftops about how their business is so great and you can make thousands of dollars in hours, by doing nothing.  

Really?  Doing NOTING?!?!  REALLY?!?!?!

I have partnered with this company for just over 6 years, and I have been a very happy customer.  This company has helped my family in so many ways, I cannot begin to explain. Along the way, I have decided to introduce others to this company because I believe there is something here for them either personally, financially, physically and/or environmentally.  Some have seen the benefits…MANY have NOT!!!

I have been rejected numerous times.  I’ve been hung up on, told this is one of those; this is a scam; they’d rather buy their items at the dollar store because it’s cheaper.  I’ve been told that while the products make sense, they are very loyal to their brand and even though their brands are very harmful, should something happen, the government will take care of them.

Don’t get me started on THAT one.

I’ve had people tell me there’s no money in this business.  People get hurt and that you shouldn’t have to spend money to start a business.  There have been many who say that if they don’t make thousands in their first week, it’s a scam.  Those are people who I see as uncoachable and living on Fantasy Island.  Good luck with them.

I won’t go into all of the documentation and scientific facts that back up the credibility of this company and  why I have chosen to partner with them.  That’s for a personal one-on-one or webinar where you can get all the information.  What I will say is that for any business to work, you have to develop a relationship with others.  That seems to be lost in a lot of the individuals out there who claim to be big shots.

My point is, this business is NOT EASY!!!  You have to WORK, and for some, they have to work a little ore than others.  Even those “big shots” you see out there who are “making money,” how many of them have actually sat down with you and shown you what they do?  How many of them are willing to share their business report, and tell you the TRUTH?!?!?  If no one has told you in the past, you cannot get rich quick.  You have to WORK.  There is no way around it.  You have to put in the time, effort, and TIME (yes, I said that twice) in order to see results.  The results will not happen quickly, either.  It takes times.  Even if you start out of the gates quickly, you have to maintain that momentum, and that takes work and time.

Stop lying to people by telling them all they need to do is this or just do that.  It’s not that easy.  You’re setting people up for failure and putting your credibility in the toilet.  You’re also making us honest people look bad by destrying all the hard work we put in every day.

This weekend was a tough one for me.  I am a slow business builder.  I am building my business part-time because I still have a young one at home who requires my attention.  It’s a lot of work and it’s downright HARD.  You think you’ve found an ideal partner, and for whatever reason, they go sideways.  Or, you find someone and they’re not coachable, and want to re-invent the wheel.  Or you find someone who is so full of themselves and had to take credit for EVERYTHING.  I’ve had days where I wanted to trhow in the towel and say, “Forget this.  This is too hard.”  Then, I think about the alternative.  Putting in a resume, competing with others who are looking for work.  Not getting paid what I’m worth.  Being away from home and asking someone else for time off.  I look at my kids and what I would miss if I were to work outside the home.  That’s not for me.  That is not what I want to do.

So, I keep going.  If I have one of those days, I dust myself off and start over.

I love the analogy of the deck of cards.  You have 52 cards in a standard deck.  We’re all

looking for those Aces.  There are only 4, and 9 times out of 10, they all won’t be at the top of the stack.  What do we need to do?  Go through the deck until we find those Aces.  Most of the time, we find some good ones who decide to be your loyal customers.  Those are your number cards.  The face cards are your potential business builders who may go the distance.  But those Aces, they are rare and very hard to come by.  Many times we find those Aces and we’re not ready for them.  I’m guilty of finding and losing Aces.

And then you have the occasional Jokers that find their way in the deck.  These are the ones who make the most noise and cause a lot of trouble.  They’re the ones who are only in it for themselves, not willing to help others, giving false or half information and telling everyone this is so EASY!!!  These Jokers are the ones who make it very difficult for the rest of us.   Sometimes these Jokers disguise themselves as Aces and we don’t realize until it’s too late.  Sometimes your deck can be full of jokers and you’ve got to go through a few decks of cards to find your TRUCE Aces.

Even those who have told me no, I do my best to make sure we still have a great relationship and o bridges have been burned.  In the end, not everyone will see what I see, but that shouldn’t mean jeopardizing a relationship.  That’s something I’ve seen others do, which is really sad.

But all is NOT lost.  Those who win, I mean TRULY win in this business are the ones who show up every day.  DO the activities every day.  Navigate through the noise every day.  Keep going every single day and do not stop UNTIL they reach their goals.  

This business is NOT easy.  There’s a lot of work involved.  Not everyone will do this because they are not willing to look long-term.  They are only interested in the instant gratification and not willing to invest in THEMSELVES.  You’ll find more of these people than those who are all in.  Think long-term.  Don’t go for the easy one.  Put in the work, just like everyone else has.

It’s not easy, but it’s most certainly worth it.  My family is worth it.  Those who decide to partner with me and go all in are worth it.  They are worth it.

Are YOU worth it?

On My Own…Again and Moving Forward – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 61

Holding Down the Fort

This afternoon, I drove hubby to the airport to head back to Alberta.  It’s something that never gets easy or what we get used to.  It was great having him home, even though I was gone for part of his stay.  Thankfully, it wasn’t an emotional send-off.  The boys were home and they said their goodbye’s there.  For me, it’s not that I don’t get emotional, but I just don’t show it.  This is our life, and for now, this is what we have to do to move forward.  We don’t like it, but, we are making it work because we HAVE to.

This go around, my resolve is different.  The promise is clear, and I know what needs to be done.  It’s hard taking care of the boys on my own, while maintaining a household, spedning quality time with the boys, running a business, and not lose my mind in the process.  I’m actually looking forward to the next few months and seeing how much I will grow as an individual.  As I stated, the promise is clear to me, now more than ever.  This is temporary; a sacrifice that we must endure in order to reach and exceed my goals.

I am welcoming the challenge; embracing the change ahead and will continue to move forward with that no matter what mindset.  No matter what is thrown my way, I will overcome it.  No matter who isn’t supportive, I will perservere.  No matter what happens, I will not stop.  I will keep going.  Why?  Because the promise is clear that when the dust clears, my family and I will be one unit and we will be in a position where we will be stable.  It’s going to be a tough road ahead, and I am ready.

I hope you’re ready for me!!!  Otherwise, step aside!!!

Inspiration – 100 Day Blog Challenge – Day 23

Inspiration is Everywhere

What inspires you?  What keeps you going?  Do you seek a higher power or are there people in your immediate circle of influence who you inspire you?

I’m inspired by many different things, people and everything in between.  I love quotes – they keep me going. Many motivational speakers, authors and historic figures give me the added push I need.  Some include Brian Tracy, John Maxwell, Mark Victor Hansen, Jim Rohn, just to name a few.  Most important, my family, especially my children, inspire me to always strive for my best, even on those days when I don’t feel inspirational.

Fairly recently, I’ve been on the receiving end of inspiration, and I’m speechless.  Never did I think I influence others.  Seriously, it may sound ridiculous, crazy, naive…but, in all honesty, for a long time, I didn’t see myself as someone who inspires others.  I just see myself as a woman doing her best every day and creating an amazing life for my family.  I’m very modest, humble, and someone who does NOT like the spotlight.  I’m a behind-the-scenes type of gal…willing to let others shine.  So, I’m always amazed when I get notes from others or hear that I have made a difference in someone’s life.  

It’s the truth.

For me, I look at myself as someone who’s plotting along, doing what I need to do to succeed.  I think the best way for me to explain is I don’t think I’m anyone special. I have a belief that we all possess a common sense trait that we should use.  I believe we all have the ability to succeed at whatever we desire, if we are willing to put in the work.  

Work Works

I’m no stranger to hard work. I do my best to put my best foot forward at all times.  I’m a work in progress; willing to learn.  I love learning…learning from others who can help me be a better person.  Others who are willing to show me the way, without doing it for me.  I am willing to put in the time, the effort, the sacrifice, the ridicule.  I don’t or rather, I won’t take the easy way out.  I want to know that everything I’ve accomplished was because I put my all into it.  Done by my hard work.

I love to work with and be around others who aren’t strangers to hard work.  Those who are willing to get into the trenches with me, get a little dirty, and come out clean on the other end.  Those who are willing to delay the instant gratification for the long-term gratification.  I love to surround myself with positive, people.  The people who inspire ME to be a better person.


Make a Difference

It really doesn’t take much to inspire others.  Eye contact is so key.  Say hello to someone; hold the door open; let someone go ahead of you; pay for someone’s coffee…the possibilities are endless.  Yes, pay it forward.  Make a difference; inspire.

The Ugly Side of Business from My Perspective

This article was originally written and posted in February 2013 on a friend’s blog as part of a challenge.  I realized I never posted it to my blog, and am doing so now. Enjoy, comment, share, and come back often.  Thank you in advance.

The Ugly Side of Business from My Perspective

For many, people like to see and hear all the great things about working from home; how much money you can earn, the trips, cars, compensation plan, financial freedom, etc.  Those are all great things, they DO happen, and when it does, the world is your oyster.  However, many who decide to get into this business are not prepared for all the WORK involved.  In fact, I like to say, some are downright LAZY.  That’s right, I said it…LAZY!!!  Lazy to the fact that this doesn’t happen overnight, and the success stories of others also include plenty of struggles and hardships, sacrifices, late nights, early mornings, missed events, arguments, tears, struggles, hair pulling and many reasons to quit.  Many aren’t really prepared for what’s involved when you start your own business, and in reality, they just want the glory without all the hard work.  It’s not easy, but it’s worth it.

My Life as a Work from Home Mom

Working from home has its good and bad points, and I have seen and experienced quite a few.  When I say that some are downright lazy, I mean all they see are the dollar signs; the big bucks and THAT’S all they want.  What some don’t seem to realize is that it takes TIME.  I am in a relationship business, and what that means is you have to be willing to develop relationships with others before you even approach them about what you do.  People have to feel (and know) that you care about them and are looking out for their best interests.  

I remember listening to a training call from one of our top leaders.  She talked about when she connects with someone, especially if it’s someone she hasn’t spoken to for years, she will wait a whole YEAR before she even speaks to that person about the business.  I almost fell out of my chair.  I thought, “A YEAR?!?!?!  What is she crazy or something?  I don’t have a year.  It has to happen NOW!!!”  But that has stuck with me and I realize that she’s right.  I have to be willing to invest my TIME in someone; find out all that I can about that person; show a genuine interest and let them understand that I care about THEM.  It’s hard, even tempting to jump all over them with what I have to offer, but more often than not, that tends to scare people off.  This business isn’t going anywhere; in fact, it keeps getting better and better every day.  I like to think of the story of the Tortoise and the Hare, because sometimes, slow and steady wins the race.

Working from home has been a blessing and a curse.  A blessing in that I can roll out of bed and not have to worry about gas, tolls, day care, a boss, etc.   The downside is, because you’re home, you also have your other responsibilities.  The kids need you, the house needs to be cleaned, everyone needs to be fed, the bills have to be paid, time with your spouse, time, time, time, time.  Oh, and you are running a business from home.  As I am writing this, I’ve had to stop to tend to my oldest who’s been throwing up all weekend; help my youngest who almost had an accident; feed the boys (again) and break up a few fights.  This is LIFE, people.  You can’t turn it off!!!  What I have come to understand is there really is no such thing as TIME MANAGEMENT.  We all have the same 24 hours in a day; no more, no less.  It’s how we utilize our time that makes all the difference.  I make To-Do Lists, and do my best to follow that list as much as possible.  I’d say that I am 80-85% successful with maintaining my lists, and when I do, the results are mind-blowing.

Choices, Decisions, Action

Life and business are about choices, decisions, and action.  We can choose to be happy, sad, indifferent, etc.  We can decide which mood to be in and how to act on them.  You’re going to be dealing with many different personalities that will more often than not, clash with yours.  Others will look to you for guidance, support, encouragement, and to let them know that you will be there and lift them up.  However, when things aren’t going so great, some of those same people will look to you as the blame.  I’ve come to realize that regardless of what’s going on around me, my successes and failures are a direct result of MY actions…no one else’s.  Some will choose to go with you, some will start and leave, and some will take their own path.  But as long as you stay on YOUR course, you will get to your destination.

Overall, the Benefits Outweigh the Struggles

My experience working from home has had its ups and downs.  Lately, there have been more downs, but what I have come to realize is that just like life, my business hits some bumps in the road.  I’ve experienced success, failure, I’ve helped others succeed, watched others move forward, while others have turned the other way.  I’ve met some amazing individuals who have been such an influence on me personally, professionally and spiritually.  The friendships I have made, I will cherish forever, and my mentors have been my biggest support throughout this whole experience. 

The biggest and best reward of all is that I am doing it.  When I started my journey in 2008, I was scared out of my mind.  I had no clue what I was doing or what I got myself into.  But, I believed in what I saw, my values and beliefs were in harmony with the company’s mission statement, and I wanted a piece of the action.  It’s taken some time, but every day, I wake up and I set out to make a difference in someone’s life.  There are days when I don’t want to do it.  I don’t want to deal with the craziness.  I’ve dealt with lots of no’s – I think the no’s outweigh the yes’s most of the time.  I’ve had people tell me I’m wasting my time;  I should get a “real job;” I’m taking advantage of people and I will not succeed in this business.  It’s hurtful and I have to force myself to NOT take it personally.  At the end of the day, are those people who said no going to pay my bills?  Are they going to give me the life I want?  No!!!  That is up to ME and no one else.  On those days when it seems like the odds are stacked against me, I look at why I do what I do – my boys and my husband.  They trump everything else. 

I AM a success story.  I am very critical of myself and I need to look at all I have accomplished.  I have to learn to not compare myself with anyone except me.  Today, I have to be just a little better than I was yesterday.  I am making a difference in my life and the lives of others, and I celebrate all the victories I’ve accomplished.  I am thankful I was introduced to this company, and given the chance to create my dream life.  I truly love what I do, and I love when others are on board to change their lives as well.  It’s so much fun taking the journey with others and being part of a team.  I love seeing and hearing the success stories of others because they are doing what is necessary to succeed.   My journey is ongoing, and each day is a new chapter in my book.  I can’t wait to see where this journey takes me next.

Re-reading this blog has also prompted me to do a little series on this, so be on the lookout for more content on “The Ugly Side of Business” because there are many ugly sides.

Please Don’t Waste My Time

If the title doesn’t reveal it, this is a rant.

I am a Wife.
I am a Mom of 3 active boys.
I have a family of 5.
I work from home.
I have a house to maintain.
I have finances to balance.
I workout 6-7 days a week.
I am a professional.

I am a BUSY woman.  Hence the title of my blog, “Diary of a Busy Mom.”

That being said, if I set time aside for you, have the common courtesy to hold up your end of the deal.  Now, don’t get me wrong; I understand that things come up, and life throws you a curve ball.  I get that – heck I LIVE that every day.  But understand, that while many may look at me as JUST a stay at home mom, who happens to work from home, I am VERY professional.  If I tell you I will call you at 10am ET, you better believe that when the clock strikes 10:00:00, your phone will ring, and that’s me calling.  If I set an appointment with you, that doesn’t give you free reign to bail on me at the last minute.  That is time I have set aside away from my family, away from other obligations, away from ME time, which I rarely get.

DON’T WASTE MY TIME!!!

My time is just as valuable as yours.  Please don’t insult my intelligence.  If you were to display such behavior at a JOB INTERVIEW, cancelling at the last minute, not only will you not get a second chance by that company, but your resume will end up at the bottom of the pile or even thrown away.  There are many out there who have been out of work for YEARS and would bend over backwards for the chance to showcase their talents.  You are expendable in the job market.

PLEASE DON’T WASTE MY TIME!!!

I offer people a second chance, hope, the chance to make a difference in their lives and the lives of others, and I continue to do so on a daily basis.

PLEASE DON’T WASTE MY TIME!!!

If you set an appointment with me, and that appointment is confirmed, if I don’t get 24 hours notice that you need to reschedule, you should feel obligated to keep that appointment.

PLEASE DON’T WASTE MY TIME!!!

 

Excuses, Excuses

We’ve all heard them and even given them, and it’s amazing how we almost BELIEVE most of them.  I’m no better.  For about 6 months, I’ve been making excuses on why I wouldn’t get back to blogging.  “It’s too much work”; “The kids are all over the place”; I’m too busy”; “My hands hurt”; My mouth hurts”; “My kid’s mouths hurt”….you get the idea.

I have another blog, but for some reason I can’t access it, so I’ve started another one.  I decided to pull up my Granny panties and just do it.  I’ve got lots to say, and need an outlet to say it.  Whoever decides to read, great.  I hope you find it helpful, or maybe even insightful.  I may get really candid, and for some of you, it may hit a nerve.  If so, maybe that will push you to do what you KNOW you should be doing and stop making excuses.

I’m a wife, a mom of 3 boys, I am a mom who works from home.  I am a busy Mom, and proud of it.  Some days are better than others, and there are times when I want to just throw in the towel.  But, hey, that’s life.  I’m sure many of you out there have felt that way.  So begins the journey into my life once again.  I hope you decide to take the ride with me.

Until next time, be well, and take care.