Love is in the air; flowers and chocolates have been sent aplenty. What a great day to be loved.
Or is it?
Recently, I was part of a discussion about Valentine’s Day and we hit on quite a few topics. From whether or not we celebrate, what the day means, it was a great “roundtable” discussion with some amazing women, and I wanted to share some of MY thoughts on this day.
I’m not a fan of Valentine’s Day.
In my opinion, it’s become a commercialized day to see who can outdo the other person with the “best” gift, etc. For me, the meaning has been lost and is all about spending.
Don’t get me wrong I am a HOPELESS romantic. I love a good romance novel, movie and the overall feeling of love. I LOVE love. However, if you only use THIS day as the ONLY day to express your love for another, then there are some other underlying issues that need to be addressed.
Relationships take work. From marriages, friendships, business partnerships and the like; they ALL take work and growth and sometimes a little sacrifice. Declaring a day to show your love for someone disturbs me. This has been something I’ve felt for a long time. I’m not a bitter woman who shuns Valentine’s Day or anything like that. I simply believe that we have become too engrossed in the purchasing power associated with the day and the true meaning has been lost.
Instead of using today to shower someone with gifts, how about spreading it out every day? Little notes here and there, an encouraging smile, offering your hand without expecting anything in return, being a shoulder for someone who needs it. It’s the little things, compounded over time, that show your love for others.
I enjoy seeing all the posts about the gifts received and dinners attended. Everyone is happy and is having a great time. At the end of the day, the flowers will wilt, the chocolates will be eaten, the dinner digested. Did that make you feel whole? Did all of that make you feel complete? If you didn’t receive any of these “gifts,” would the day still have meaning for you? What about tomorrow or the next day or next month? Sometimes we tend to look for love in the wrong places and never find that true happiness which can only come from within.
At the end of the day, as long as you love YOURSELF, the other things are simply secondary.